I'd tell them they should only date people that they could marry. We discover personality during the dating process. However, if you know the fellow/gal is not in the Church, is not eligible to be sealed--why risk falling in love? You're the Stake President, and the parents have complained that I am counseling too harshly, based on my opinions--not church doctrine. How will you counsel me? BTW, as LDS parents, would you want me to counsel my evangelical youth not to date your LDS youth?