lattelady Posted August 18, 2009 Report Posted August 18, 2009 Something may be true, and not "patently false", but I think it's usually wise to heed the advice I was given about the words we speak: 1) ARE THEY TRUE 2)ARE THEY KIND 3)ARE THEY NECESSARY Quote
lattelady Posted August 18, 2009 Report Posted August 18, 2009 Also, "harsh reality-check"s from friends who "love us enough to be blunt" are necessary when we can't see things for what they really are. The problem with giving harsh reality-checks to people and being very blunt to people in a forum like this, especially to people who are really hurting or wounded, is that you don't have a relationship with them. There's friendship built so that they know that the place you're coming from is one of love and concern. That's why they might not take it well, or might be further hurt or wounded, and why others might want to come to their defense. Quote
Guest Posted August 18, 2009 Report Posted August 18, 2009 I'm going to put my neck out there... I actually see wisdom in puf_the_majic_dragon's posts. To the OP, it might not be "gentle", but, if you take his posts in the context it was given, and try to see past the delivery, you will see some helpful tidbits there. As somebody who is an unmedicated manic depressive, I can attest that "forgetting ones' self in the service of others" can be an excellent alternative to medication in certain cases. We don't know exactly what yours is, but if you give this a shot, you might see some immediate improvement... even if the situation hasn't changed, you just might find that a shift in perspective makes you see the little nuggets of blessings in the situation. Looking outwards can be better than looking inwards. This has been proven over and over in the depressed seniors or depressed inmates who are given a dog or a pet to take care of. They start looking outwards in caring for a pet that they start looking at the good things instead of dwelling on the bad. I know it is always a grand feeling to have helped somebody and the feeling lasts a very long time instead of having done something for yourself (like a new boyfriend) that can be quite fleeting. Just a thought... Quote
ladykemma2 Posted August 19, 2009 Report Posted August 19, 2009 slimming pills, amphetamines? whoa, buddy. hormones, thyroid, anemia, b-12... anyway, when i am in a spiritual slump i find it helps to "suit up and show up". you are also discovering that it sucks to be a single woman in the mormon church. this IS a rotten reality no matter how you look at it. i am in the same situation. I finally had to get it that the church was not a dating service, that the singles ward was full of rejects, I got good and mad, and said to myself, self, this is about my spiritual journey on this earth and that i had to find peace in the fact that i would never marry (again). Quote
lattelady Posted August 20, 2009 Report Posted August 20, 2009 Not being a member, myself, Ladykemma2--what does it mean that the "singles ward was full of rejects?" Sad! Quote
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