lch1234 Posted February 28, 2011 Report Posted February 28, 2011 (edited) jhg Edited March 2, 2011 by lch1234 Quote
Guest Posted February 28, 2011 Report Posted February 28, 2011 There has got to be a reason why you decided to marry him. It's not normal to go from a very short dating period, a rocky engagement, then to marriage without some very compelling qualities that was good enough for a lifetime commitment. Marriage is not like shopping. You don't get to return the merchandize with a receipt without some major scars to show for it. I am sorry you are having a difficult time. But, from the information I got from your post, you already knew the marriage is not a good one, yet you went for it. So, you can't really expect to plant a weed and expect some roses out of it. What you can do though is water that weed, fertilize it, give it your heart and soul, and maybe, just maybe, you'll get those dandelions growing. Don't understimate the beauty of dandelions. It is going to be a lot of hard work on your part. But you already knew that before you decided to marry him... Be strong. It is during these hard times that you would really get a lot of benefit from clinging to God - so don't put much stock on what you can get off the internet - trust more on what you can get off of heartful and humble prayer. May you find comfort in these trying times. Quote
Gwen Posted February 28, 2011 Report Posted February 28, 2011 i'm not sure i have any advise that will help (can try this thread http://www.lds.net/forums/marriage-relationship-advice/25622-resources-links-your-marriage.html). for a couple of reasons please please don't have children till this is sorted out. one your children deserve better than to have such a controlling father and an angry mother. also once you do, if he won't straighten up, it makes it even harder to leave. Quote
rameumptom Posted February 28, 2011 Report Posted February 28, 2011 It usually takes two to tango. It seems he has a control issue problem. We are not sure what your issues are, but obviously there are some if your broke off the relationship and then married him anyway. It comes down to a marriage counselor. Either you both go and are willing to change negative habits, etc., or you end the marriage. Don't have kids unless and until you fix your problems. If he isn't willing to go to counseling, then there really is no way for you to resolve all the fighting and problems alone. Quote
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