How do I get over this painful rejection?

[Bini]

Well ur a girl and he s a guy .. Our society is accepting of that more than us girls being with way younger guys ..

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That's why I said that "age is taboo" for a lot of people. Yes, our society is more accepting of the man being older than the woman BUT you'd be surprised how many people initially frowned on me and my then-boyfriend-now-husband dating. We have almost a 20 year age gap and it rubbed a lot of people the wrong way - they just didn't like it.

[Leah]

yes i could of saved my myself the dissapointment that i'm feeling right now by stay away from him and not develope a crush on him and i tried that i even prayed to heavenly father everynight as well to forget about him but my feelings for him got stronger and stronger. i cried almost everyday. i hate the feeling of liking someone who is off limit! but the heart can't help it.

That's a cop-out. That's not taking responsibility for YOUR feelings, YOUR choices.

If you hate the feeling of liking someone who is off limits, then don't allow yourself to have those kinds of feelings! No one forced those feelings on you, you chose them! Pretending to be helpless gets you nowhere and gains you nothing.

Failing to take responsibility for yourself will inhibit your ability to let go of this and learn from this.

[sshannonbb]

Well I'm not trying to convince anyone that I'm helpless ... I'm not going to go through life by being afraid to love !! Love is a beautiful thing!! At least it's not hate!! And I did what I had to do!! And went for it even though the outcome is not what I want but I'm learning a lot from this!! I can say that the is the first time that I ever been this brave !! And yes im hurt and it's painful !! My self esteem is super low right now because I've been rejected!! I wish though that he was a bit sensitive but he was very straightforward and blunt!! He actually asked me why am I hurting??? He told me that he have never thought of me in a romantic way but how could he ?? He was on his mission.. He s not suppose to think abt anything beside serving the lord!! He didn't even give me a chance!! The door was shut right in my face !! Like I'm nothing!! But whatever I won't dwell on this any longer !! This is a great lesson !!

[Leah]

Well I'm not trying to convince anyone that I'm helpless ... I'm not going to go through life by being afraid to love !! Love is a beautiful thing!! At least it's not hate!! And I did what I had to do!! And went for it even though the outcome is not what I want but I'm learning a lot from this!! I can say that the is the first time that I ever been this brave !! And yes im hurt and it's painful !! My self esteem is super low right now because I've been rejected!! I wish though that he was a bit sensitive but he was very straightforward and blunt!! He actually asked me why am I hurting??? He told me that he have never thought of me in a romantic way but how could he ?? He was on his mission.. He s not suppose to think abt anything beside serving the lord!! He didn't even give me a chance!! The door was shut right in my face !! Like I'm nothing!! But whatever I won't dwell on this any longer !! This is a great lesson !!

Maybe someday you will realize that he asked you a very important question.

[sshannonbb]

But then he said yeah he ll be hurt as well when I asked him this " how would he feel if a girl he like rejected him."

[Leah]

But then he said yeah he ll be hurt as well when I asked him this " how would he feel if a girl he like rejected him."

As I said, maybe someday you will realize that he asked you an important question.

[sshannonbb]

no i'm already realizing it now but it'll take time for the pain to go away. i can't just get over it within a week or two. it'll probably will take months. i do realize that i don't need his validation. i have to learn how to love myself and just do me. i always wanted to go back to school to do something else with my life and that's exactly what i'm going to do.