Look at their heart, not their religion

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Kabayan! :)

Thanks for the details- "inactive Mormon with a strong testimony" - is a pretty interesting way to describe your husband.

Mabuhay! Bisaya ako galing sa Cebu.

Inactive with a strong testimony... yes... He has a strong belief in God and the Plan of Salvation but he did not have a testimony that the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is the Church of God on earth and that the prophet is the prophet called of God. He was getting pressured to serve a mission and he did not feel he can with the doubts that he had. So, he left the church and went to other churches looking for answers.

I was going to say- in a relationship , religion wouldn't really play a major role especially if one is indifferent towards his/her religion. I was going to take his inactivity as indifference - but I know that inactivity does not always mean absence of testimony - as in his case.

I would have to disagree with this one. Inactivity doesn't mean he'll be more open to devoutness from his spouse. He may just not like religious organizations at all and would start to resent having to share his spouse with her church. This is especially true for LDS spouses because there are very specific time-and-service-oriented activities in the church that takes you away from family.

I guess the trickiest and most challenging part in your relationship was to "lose all hope" of what you both wanted. I guess it's what you call an adult compromise. :)

That was one-sided too. I did lose all hope but he didn't... he truly believed in an Eternal Family and he knew that even if we don't get sealed on earth, we would still have that opportunity in the Spirit World. And because he strongly believed in the truth of the restored gospel and my desire to follow truth, he believed that even if I don't find this truth on earth that I will eventually find it in the Spirit World and we can still be an Eternal Family. So, in a sense, it was harder for me than it was for him. And it was harder for my family than it was for his. My family, especially my mother, fears for my salvation, whereas his family - including his mother - believed that everything will sort itself out in heaven as they see me as the "instrument" that brought their son back to church. My husband went back to church when he decided he wanted to marry me. He wanted his family to have a worthy priesthood leader.

But I'm glad it worked out for the both of you. With me and this guy- he's Hindu- and you can just imagine how worlds apart it is from LDS beliefs but we do have similar values. It's also a good thing that he is open to learn what I believe. I'm open to learning more about his religion but converting to Hinduism- that's another story.

I work with a lot of Hindi people. They do have similar values even if they don't believe in the Plan of Salvation. And they put a lot of value on marriage. Is he Filipino as well? Regardless of what all these celebrities and ex-pats are doing, divorce is still illegal in the Philippines...