~Sarah~ Posted December 28, 2007 Report Share Posted December 28, 2007 It's a guideline from the prophet, meaning we definately should follow it, but it's not a commandment. I'm not a father so I know I wouldn't understand this, but maybe you should let this be an opportunity to let your daughter exercise her free agency?I always saw it as a commandment, because my parents COMMANDED me to not date until I was 16. And I'm sorry, but a 14 year old girl living in her parents house does not have the "free agency" to decide whether or not she is going to date. Agency doesn't work like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MorningStar Posted December 28, 2007 Report Share Posted December 28, 2007 I always saw it as a commandment, because my parents COMMANDED me to not date until I was 16. And I'm sorry, but a 14 year old girl living in her parents house does not have the "free agency" to decide whether or not she is going to date. Agency doesn't work like that.We are supposed to honor our mother and father, so yes, you are breaking a commandment if you go against your parents. Good point. :) That's a toughie though when your parents aren't on the same page. What to do then? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrewM Posted December 28, 2007 Report Share Posted December 28, 2007 As far as this issue of letting a person "exercise their agency:" Agency is ALWAYS bound by CONSEQUENCES. Many people in the world today want to believe that you can do whatever you want WITHOUT consequences. That, I believe, is Satan's plan ("I will redeem them all" He that hath ears to hear let him hear). So, yes, this fine man's daughter may exercise her agency, but at the cost of whatever consequences the parents impose. My kids will be free to date whenever they want to, but if they do it before 16, it's coming out of their hide. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~Sarah~ Posted December 28, 2007 Report Share Posted December 28, 2007 As far as this issue of letting a person "exercise their agency:"Agency is ALWAYS bound by CONSEQUENCES. Many people in the world today want to believe that you can do whatever you want WITHOUT consequences. That, I believe, is Satan's plan ("I will redeem them all" He that hath ears to hear let him hear). So, yes, this fine man's daughter may exercise her agency, but at the cost of whatever consequences the parents impose. My kids will be free to date whenever they want to, but if they do it before 16, it's coming out of their hide. :)QFT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~Sarah~ Posted December 28, 2007 Report Share Posted December 28, 2007 We are supposed to honor our mother and father, so yes, you are breaking a commandment if you go against your parents. Good point. :) That's a toughie though when your parents aren't on the same page. What to do then?What does a 14 year old need to do if she isn't agreeing with her parents? Umm, get over it and obey her parents anyways? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MorningStar Posted December 28, 2007 Report Share Posted December 28, 2007 What does a 14 year old need to do if she isn't agreeing with her parents? Umm, get over it and obey her parents anyways? But what if one parent has one opinion and the other parent has another opinion? You can't obey both of them at the same time. Hmmmm .... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~Sarah~ Posted December 28, 2007 Report Share Posted December 28, 2007 But what if one parent has one opinion and the other parent has another opinion? You can't obey both of them at the same time. Hmmmm ....Oh, I misread you and thought you said the parents weren't on the same page as the 14 yo. Oops Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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