TootsieBlue

I think the problem was that the lady was not being discreet. She is from a more liberal European country where there isn't such a thing about body parts. I just think, if it makes you uncomfortable then look away! Yes we should be discreet, but on the odd occasion where a mother isn't, i she meant to be told 'don't do that here!' ??

sorry if this topic has been done to death, but I dont come on here very often. What is the norm and what is ok. I heard a High Priest today in his 30's moaning about a mother breastfeeding her baby in the church foyer. I had a lighthearted discussion with him and he said he also feels it inappropriate for mothers to breastfeed during sacrament, infact he was convinced that it would be in the Church handbook somewhere I'm a bit shocked as the man has a wife and children. So who's the norm here, me or him???

thanks for your help, thats great :)

Does anyone know if a Sister can hold one of these callings? ward pfr?? and sunday school President?

Hi, i'm also in the UK and understand your situation. I'm in Staffordshire and have been a member for 14 years. I hope you've had most if not all your questions answered but the main thing I wanted to pick up on is that you dont have to share testimony or anything like that to be a member of the church. Everything is at your own pace and only what you want to do. take care

My husband had a similar position, came out of law school with top grades and we thought he would walk into a job. He did so much applying and interviews sometimes got through to the second round but always ended up that someone else got the position Anyways, he went for a days voluntary work at a charity that was loosley based around law and from there is has networked into serveral law firms and now has many avenues he can explore. Hope that helped. as we say in the UK- Keep yer chin up :)

its not your advice or your opinion that anyone has a problem with soulsearcher. Its your delivery method

Thanks for your PM's guys x

ok Pam, you're right. I'm sorry. I shouldn't get so riled up. I find this particular guy offensive to me as he has persistently taken shots at me on top of the advice he's given. I'm happy to receive advice and other peoples opinions as that is the whole point of this forum and particularly the advice board. I have asked this gentleman to be a bit nicer but he still continues to make assumptions about me and his posts are not nice and only mildly helpful. On of your moderators has even had a word with him and yet he continues to be mean about the advice he's given. Sorry for posting strongly. I'll just keep out of it xx

i really dont like your 'high and mighty' attitutude If you looked at all the post prior to your post, everyone was pointing me in the direction of sit quiet and pray and be there for him. So in conclusion to 'THIS' thread, I said, 'ok, i'll stick by the lad, do what I can and pray as a family and be here for him when he needs us.' I've already said we encourage him to spend time with us, at youth and come to church. I've also stated that the lines of communication with his Mum is open. What does that mean to you? that i'm 'not' speaking to her???? She came over yesterday after church to talk to us but I'm not even going to get there for you to pick holes in what was said or not said :/ Excuse me if I dont manage to put down every tiny bit of info on here for your expert perusal. Butt out and dont worry, I wont ask for you expert opinion on my life or the life of others again

hmmmm... you're not being very nice to me. And I mean that in the most jovial way of course. I, and my family have wrecked our heads over this for a long time and worked with this lad for years as he's lived in our street since he was 7. We've worked hard to keep communication open with his Mum also. I genuinely feel for him and dont know the best course of action. I say action, because i'm aware that inaction doesn't work. Will you get off your soap box now?

I see what you are saying and understand what you are suggesting. But I see no good coming of me talking to the authorities about it. If I did have the guts to do something about it, it would probably be best for me to speak directly to the Mum about the seriousness of the situation. We are in the UK and they will not get into alot of trouble for this. However if I were to get Child Protection or the Police involved it would definitely sever a friendship that is already strained.

thanks for all your advice. My lad is out playing basketball with this lad now and I'm keen for them to remain friends but a bit weary too. I could easily tell the police that the parents are supplying alcohol to their child but it would have the adverse effect as you say. I suppose our hands are tied and all we can do is pray and keep our friendship and our standards for him to see when and if he ever chooses it.

My boys befriended a bully that lives in our street. We've had years of problems with him, he is 14 now and our eldest is 12. He managed to make friends and this lad started coming to church with us. After a while he was baptised. His Mum and her partner support anything that this lad does so they were quite happy to go along with it all also the Mum said that she had seen so much improvement with him since he had been hanging round our children and going to church. she says his behaviour has done a complete 360. He does really like a girl who lives in our street who also goes to church and I'm sure this really helped him to make the decision to join. Since joining however it was holiday time and his Mum and Partner took him away for camping trip with their family. Their family are heavy drinkers and I'm wondering if this camping trip is where the problem that we now face started. Since after the holidays this lad doesn't come out to church much but we've persisted in fellowshipping him and my son has encouraged him to go to Young Mens everyweek. We have been worried for this lad as he stays out till midnight sometimes with his friends (he is only 14) His Mum wants to be his best friend so she allows it. Last week, he sneaked some alcohol out of his house and gave it to his friends. His Mum came round and spoke to my husband and he gave her some advice. About curfews and which friends he should spend time with and about supporting him to go to church as basically they just let him to do what he wants. Not that they dont love him, infact its that she loves him too much. Tonight there was a birthday party at another lads house in the street. His Mum is an alcoholic. This lad was seen in their garden drinking by our boys. I called his Mum and in a nice way said that the children think that her son may be drinking at the neighbours party. The mother said, Yes he is. She had spoken to his school after last weekends drinking problem and the school apparently said, 'well he is a teenager and teenagers will do that sort of thing, its normal and not to worry' ???? So when he told her he was going to a party tonight she actually bought the alcohol for him How can we help this lad? I'm just completely stumped. He's 14, he's hanging with the wrong crowd. He has complete control over his own life, he chooses his bedtime and now he chooses if he wants alcohol. I just find the situation ridiculous Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks Tootsie

thanks sweetiepie x