Wingnut
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Some level of conflict is not unreasonable. I think it all depends on the degrees though. If I were you, I would be somewhat concerned, as you are still in a euphoria phase (even if a very stressed one), and there are much harder challenges to come.
You might look at some of Dr. John Gottman's discussions on fighting styles. "Fighting", or heated discussions are not necessarily a sign of a bad relationship. What matters more than whether or not you have conflicts and disagreements is how you two fight. There are some conflict styles that are productive, and others that are toxic. Figure out where you two are in that conflict style spectrum, and evaluate if you two truly are compatible.
Infatuation love of the courting/engagement phase is not enough. It takes compatibility and skills too.
Love Dr. Gottman!
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Totally normal, and -- in my opinion, though perhaps an unpopular one -- a good thing, actually. If you've never really fought with each other before, you have an opportunity now to explore each others' argument styles and see if they're compatible.
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Sure doesn't feel like one, either, but neither did the ultrasound.
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Just so everyone realizes--this is a zombie thread. The OP is from 2.5 years ago.
Those trolls get someone every time, don't they?
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I guess I still don't see the problem. Just because they have secrets doesn't automatically make them secret combinations. Do they teach evil things, or try to draw people away from God? You mentioned that one group prays facing east -- so? They pray. Why is that a bad thing?
I mean this without any maliciousness, but it sounds like your experiences with these groups may be tainted by the association with your ex-husband, of whom you've repeatedly spoken angry and bitter things (and justifiably so).
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So much for the Bill of Rights:
Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof;
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I went to BYU for just my freshman year, and in the information packet from my future ward, there was a note encouraging the males to talk with their bishops about being ordained prior to leaving for college. I'm a woman, but I was only 17 when I left for school, and had I been male, I might have been ordained "underage."
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A wise man learns by the mistakes of others, a fool by his own.
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Well, I don't know if this is really a pet peeve or not.
Many years ago when I had become active again for a brief time, I was sitting behind a family in Sacrament meeting -- and on the far side of the family was their daughter and her boyfreind.
I'm not exagerating when I say that this young teenage girl could not keep her hands off of this boyfreind.
She sat next to him the whole meeting stroking his back (as he was leaning forward most of the time) up and down, side to side, then in circular motions -- then whisper something in his ear and then repeat the same process over and over ad nausem.
I tried to focus on the speakers (as I certainly know they were not) but quite frankly it was all I could do to accomplish such a feat -- I always found my lurking eyes going back to them.
I know it was young infatuation or young love and innocent or whatever, but believe me when I say that I seriously thought there might be a chance of me throwing up over both of them and ruining the moment for them -- what a shame that would have been.
Perhaps if a water hose would have fell out of the sky, I would have hosed them both down and it also would have been handy for the cleanup of my regurgitation.
Actually I would have been happy just to have a conceiled squirt gun and when she went for one of her passionate whispers, I would have blasted her right in the smakers......just kidding of course.
Seriously, I had never observed anything like it in all of my years growing up in the church.....a little affection shown to your mate in church....yes....but nonstop throughout a meeting....no.
I think she must have had a Pink Bunny battery in that arm of hers.
There is a couple in my ward who used to do this. They're not as bad anymore, but when they moved in, they'd only been married about two months, so they were still quite twitterpated. I didn't have the problem with the gag reflex, but I found it very distracting. Holding hands or putting an arm around is one thing, but the rubbing, scratching, whispering, and kissing on the cheek or ear is quite out of place in Sacrament meeting.
Well then I welcome you to REjoin us anytime! :)
Yeah, I don't think that's probably going to happen for Soulsearcher.
:confused::confused:I know, right? What the ?
I think we've been drive-by trolled. But that's another pet peeve altogether. :)
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So you're saying older people have absolutely no problem with hormones at all? I know a married couple in our ward that has an open marriage. They've been married for more than 20 years. You say they don't have hormone problems because of their age? Hormones isn't an age thing, it's in everyone, you included. No, hormones is not the reason for every teenager.
Sounds to me less like a problem with hormones and more like a case of stupid. But that's sometimes the issue with teenagers, too.
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Personally I think the Moose Lodge, Elks Lodge, etc qualify too.
Can you explain? Aren't these types of organizations service-based? What's wrong with that?
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I went to my second checkup today and had the trans-vaginal ultrasound. Not nearly as violating as some had perceived it to be. It actually felt no different from the pressure you experience during a pap. But that's my own experience I suppose.
Yeah, except that the ultrasound doesn't prop you open and scrape you out. *shudder*
:)
I didn't find it "violating" at all -- just unexpected. The only kind of ultrasound I knew of was the kind on the belly with the jelly, so I was really caught off-guard with the transvaginal kind.
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It does make the "age = experience" theory null and void.
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I find many posts from many people here demonstrating a lack of maturity.
Experience doesn't automatically = maturity, despite the conclusions you seem to have reached on the matter.
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Talk to your bishop. He can help you determine both readiness and worthiness.
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Put yourself through college?
Bought a car?
Paid for your own cell phone?
Paid rent?
Called off an engagement when it wasn't right?
Served a mission?
Followed the prophets' counsel on something you didn't necessarily agree with?
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You asked once if she was saying that cheating is okay. She clarified her comment to make sure that was not her intended feedback. I'll say it for her also: Anatess was not saying that cheating is a good thing.
By the way, your pride is showing.
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1. Gospel Doctrine;
a. teacher poses a question, the answer to which everyone in the room knows
b. everyone knows it only requires a few words at most to explain why
c. The one person who answers is the ward Scriptorian, who either feels the need to connect the issue with every other doctrinal point in the scirptures, or is merely unable to stop himself/herself from "Sharing all things with [them] from the beginning down to the present time."
c. (alternate) the only person who answers is the ward Political Analyst (all party affiliations apply)
Well, first of all, you have two "c"s. :) That aside, I would add another infuriating option.
a. teacher poses a question, the answer to which everyone in the room knows
b. everyone knows it only requires a few words at most to explain why
c. No one answers!!!!!
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*facepalm*
Better?
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I've been dating since my freshman year of high school. I know what a real relationship is. I'm 19 so I'm not a kid.
I laughed at the post, but this deserved extra laughs.
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I would ask a less specific question. Something more general, along the lines of:
"Am I alone in this? I feel like I am."
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"Have you talked with other people who struggle with the same thing?"
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Okay, I should probably share one of my pet peves:
Why does *every* talk (at least in my ward) have to start with the speaker saying how much they wish they didn't have to give a talk? They'll talk about how they got "trapped" by the Bishop, or how they wish they were down in the pews instead of giving the talk. It just always seems like such an inappropriate way to begin what it is supposed to be a spiritual address. I know lots of people hate public speaking, but could they "grin and bear it" perhaps?
In my ward every talk begins with a life history. We have a transient ward, and get a new crop of grad students and medical residents in every summer, and so every talk is an introduction to the family, where the spouses are each from, how they met, who their kids are, and what brought them to the ungodly place where they live now.
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6. When husband and wife at church and children to go outside due to crying etc....Mother takes them out...why not the Dad!!!!
That reminds me of this:
My biggest pet peeve - children fussing, crying, or even acting up and the parents are allowing it or weakly protesting their behavior in church. One Sunday, this happened and I politely turned to the mother who was oblivious to her son running up and down the aisle with his car and causing such a distraction and asked "would you mind if I took your son out or would you like to take him out so that others can hear the speaker?" She got offended and walked out, dragging dear old son in tow. Didn't see her back at church after that.
There's one particular family in my ward that is quite guilty of this. Moms have an ability to just tune their kids out when they get fussy -- especially when there's not a good reason for the fussiness (and it's understandable that they do tune them out), but they seem to forget that not everyone else can tune their kids out, too.
What's amazing is how many people actually know the words to not only the 1st verse but all 4 verses if applicable. But they will keep their head buried in the hymn book.
I know the words to most verses of most hymns that are sung regularly, but I still pay attention to the hymnal because I try to follow the music. I know the basic tune, but I'm really off-key in general, so I try to focus on the music notes and follow them.
I've been a ward music leader and chorister. While I did my best to speed up the hymns to those that should be sung "joyously" you also need an organist that doesn't keep their head buried in the hymnbook and can look up and follow a chorister. More than not it's the chorister having to follow the organist.
When I was the Ward Music Director, I was blessed with organists who knew to follow me, and not the other way around. It made a nice difference.
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If you've already left the LDS Church, and made your own decisions and conclusions about it, and read the books you were taught not to read, then why do you care about the reasons you shouldn't have read them?
Ok, now this sucks...
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Poor guy. I heard he tried therapy, but his psychiatrist just laughed at him.