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To be honest I didn't reach out so that I could be told how amazing other peoples marriage are and to be told that I shouldn't have to work at it. As if it's not worth working on. Marriages are all different and if I have to work at mine, I will. That was the point I was trying to get across with my last post. Maybe someday (I hope some day) I will have to work less... But I sure don't feel like it's wrong to work at it now. If anyone has anymore ideas on how I can build a better relationship with my husband I would love to hear them, I'm not adverse to trying almost anything. Also, if someone would like to start a topic on " should marriages require work " by all means please do. I was just looking for advice with my specific problem Thank you to those that have given me helpful advice and were encouraging.

I appreciate the advice and more than anything I needed a sounding board and needed some support. Thank you guys for that

Money has never been something we fight about. He makes plenty and so do I ... We set up a household account put in the same amount and pay all the bills and add to savings with it. Then his money is his and mine is mine He has a hard time letting things go. To me it's little and to him it's huge We both need to work on things We are both stubborn and need to be more humble.( and forgiving ) And I need to let the little things slid. It's not that I don't see our problems and I'm not trying to minimize them. I just have faith we can make it work and over come them We are already making progress But what is a little set back to me is huge to him I know I can't make his decision for him But it's hard. And to be honest I'm mad ( hurt) at him for leaving ... But trying not to let that get in the way

That's a good question ....As far as I can tell he thinks that it is just me that he is incompatible with. Not marriage in general But honestly I've never asked him that... Maybe I should

I completely agree... We have both been to see the bishop and we are both well on our way to being able to take the sacrament again and Move on As far as him being bipolar I agree also - He was unable to confide in me before that he was bipolar. I think now that I know, it will help me recognize what's going on faster and help him stay on his medication But him taking a pill every day isn't a magic bullet and there still some strain and stress on our relationship (which is been getting better) I agree with everything you guys are saying I just don't know how to make him see that.

Well you're right in a way.... I guess I was just uncomfortable airing our dirty laundry. So here goes. 1- we messed up( intimately) before we got married and are both struggling with getting right with the church again. So our foundation wasn't very strong to begin with 2- he is bipolar - he was off of his medication for a while which caused a lot of arguing. 3- he has been back on his medication for a month. And things have improved a lot. But we are still bickering over little things. So honestly I feel like I have recognized the problems, and am working on the problems. He has acknowledged that things have gotten a lot better between us... But he feels we are incompatible

Thank you for your understanding and prayers ( I need them !) I'm just feeling helpless. I have been praying like crazy, guess I'm just grasping at straws now

My husband has left me. ( moved everything out of the house). And is currently on a 2 to 3 week shift in the oil field. After much pleading on my part he has agreed not to make a final decision about divorce until he gets back from his work shift . With out going into too much detail...( we both have our faults ) there are no major issues in our marriage such as adultery, pornography or abuse. But we do argue a lot!! We have visited with the bishop about it. And we have had some improvement. Everything I've read and everything I been taught tells me to fight for my marriage. But how do you save it in two weeks? Or worst-case how do I except it if he asks for a divorce?