Jane_Doe

I don’t do the commitment pattern unless it is at work with a troublesome person I’m managing (where I am essentially ordering you to do it because I’m the boss and you give me a lot of guff). Other than that it feels manipulative.

Howdy! Sorry I’m a bit late to the party, it’s been a crazy weekend. @zil2 already provided you the formal missionary link. I’m not a formal missionary, but would be thrilled to answer any questions here or via DM/email. Whatever you’d like!

Before the Musk shenanigans, I had several friends that worked at Twitter. Since then many have left and the ones that remain are absolutely hating the chaos.

Hey hands off my chowder!!

Couple of thoughts: - A child choosing to use thier agency to choose otherwise doesn’t mean the parent failed. Remember, even a third of Heavenly Father’s children choose to leave. That is thier choice. - The best thing you can do is pray and keep the communication bridges open. Ideally a person should be able to discuss things early, before it becomes a fully fledged soup box.

Honestly, I don't think if that's true that it would really matter. Like dividing 10^(9999999999999999999999999999999999999999) by 1.02 instead of 1.01. It's effectively the same result.

From what I saw (I could be wrong) the school and even the Oregon governor came out with clear condemnation for the fans behavior- flat out calling it “religious bigotry” (which it is). While of course that doesn’t excuse the fans that did the actions, it is nice to actually hear the leaders take a stand condemning it.

I’m an LDS Christian lady married to a he generic Christian dude. we are extremely happy. But you got to have a shared value set. Have a serious and open discussion with this lady. If she’s totally against raising Christian kids and it’s something you are passionate to do: that’s a foundational clash and the relationship needs called off. If her reaction is “it’s not for me but I respect that you love it and I’m cool with you teaching that to the kids”, then have an in depth and frank conversation about things. When you’ve been together for two years any question should be game.

Haha. Ironically, when the Covid shut downs were in full swing, guess which state had zero decrease in driving? Wyoming. Honestly here’s my total driving for a full week: a trip to the grocery store (5 miles round trip), a trip to church (2 miles round trip), and maybe 2 other trips around town. We walk to school, friends, library, and before working fully remote I’d bike to work 6 months of the year. And then about every 6 weeks we got to go to Colorado for Costco or something (3 hour round trip).

Why I love my small town (30k population): - Because I can walk/bike to everywhere I need. For all other shopping, there's Amazon. - I see familiar faces are the park, getting to know each other and that sense of community. And with 30k, it's enough to be familiar but not claustrophobic. - I can leave whenever I want. Hiking in the mountains is a 7 minute drive. Easy star-gazing with my daughter. There is freedom to spread my wings as far as I want. - "Traffic" is when I accidentally drive by the High School when the students get out. It's a really annoying 4 minute wait. - Just down to earth. No clutter. Why it's not for everyone: - (Big one) Work. There are a very limited number of business in town. I enjoy remote work, but it's not for everyone, and that's really limiting. - There are limited opportunities for in-person specialized groups. For example, for competitive sports it's slim pickings for teams here, and for games there's a lot of driving. - In a small town you got to entertain yourself. We don't have Boardwalk musicals-- but the high school puts on two performances a year. We do things like have huge bubble parties in the parking lot. The local parade and fair is the time the kids show off their pigs. - We don't have all of those "big city" amenities and shopping. If it can't be found at the grocery store, you either Amazon or drive to Colorado.

Here in Wyoming we define "town" as a place having at least 1 of the following: - A gas station - A stop light - Is located on some road junction such that you say "turn right when you reach Johnsonville" It is a very different mindset then other places. For an example from 4 o'clock today: I work remotely and the company I'm working for is hosting a big "let's get together" event, with offices all across North America and Europe. An organizer from CT reached out to me, inviting me to go to the nearest office with promises of how fun this will be, food, swag, and socialization. She was shocked I replied that it was over a 3 hour drive. So she asked "would you manager approve of you flying down?". The airport is also 3 hours away. She meant well, and I thanked her for that, but it's just a different world than she's used to. In contrast: last week a co-worker of mine needed to have it verified in-person that he has a real passport. I was the nearest employee, so we met in the middle of the 3 hour drive. And he was thrilled I saved him from having to drive 7 hours both there and back. We met at a nice little town: they have a gas station (it's the only gas station 1-2 hours in any direction). For a third example: when I first moved to WY, literally that week I discovered that I was expecting and needed a new wardrobe. I live in a big city for WY standards-- we have 3 grocery stores and 2 thrift stores. No maternity clothes and I would have to drive to Colorado to get clothes. I was complaining about this and how I missed "civilization". My new co-worker asked where I was from: Denver. She replied "Oh, I like Denver, it's a cute little town". "Huh? Cute little town- there's 3 million people there! Where are you from?" "Beijing". Oh.... everything is relative. And I have since learned that small towns are way better than cities (more on that next post).

I’m really not a fan ideas that put of the “mark of the beast” being a literal thing or being sensational. Rather, the marks that matter (good and bad) are on our hearts. “Woke” stuff can be silly, harmful, and a small part of it is actually good. As to the specific examples of posting pronouns (name tags, emails, etc)…. It’s kind of a “whatever, you do you” in my mind. I’m more concerned about underlying trends (like negating the idea foundational of gender). Name tags are just a symptom of a sick world.

Honestly a lot of these answers are “it depends”. A major factor being the age and how close the kids/family are. I know that my kids will encounter other people who’s behavior I’m not ok with, so teaching them why this isn’t ok and how to deal with things is also important. As yo your situation: elementary age you can still veto friends. However, relatives are more complicated- you can more place “we will see you less” boundaries. But it also possibly gives you room to talk to the parents since you actually know them. Things that are just a no dealbreaker: hitting, anything sexual, breaking things. Things that maybe we can maybe work through and have “my house rules”: noise volume, taking turns, etc.

The three weeks are a buffet of options to pick from. Anyone whom had a special moment related to any topic is free to talk about it, and the teacher brings a list to talk about to fill any gaps in discussion. But we don’t try to cover every point.

We’re fine on our home, but thank you for the concern.