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  1. askandanswer

    Lehi's dream and today's Sunday School lesson

    Yes, I agree, so much depends on the atonement and our individual choices, but it seems to me that the choices we make are very much influenced by the relative strengths of good and evil influences operating on us at the time we make those choices. The factors that shape the setting in which we make those choices are likely to have an impact on the choices made within that setting.
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    Racial Error in Come Follow Me Manual

    Well, I sincerely hope for my sake that there might be at least a few wh ites.
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    The Glory of Men is the Woman

    Clearly things were better back in the 1940's. There was no @MormonGator back then......... or was there?
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    Fasting - some questions

    I think the following from verse 3 of section 89 of the Doctrine and Covenants might be applicable here: 3 Given for a principle with promise, adapted to the capacity of the weak and the weakest of all saints, who are or can be called saints. (Doctrine and Covenants | Section 89:3) I'm not trying to say you are weak. The point I'm trying to draw your attention to is that some principles might be adaptable, according to the capacity of the saints. However, I will add that cautionary note that we need to be very careful about deciding if and how we will adapt any principles to fit our own circumstances. Such decisions are best made in consultation with local Priesthood leaders.
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    The Glory of Men is the Woman

    Unless you're a dad - in which case you should be a stay at home dad.
  6. Our Sunday School lesson today was about Lehi’s dream. I see this dream as a metaphor for our journey through mortality towards exhaltation. In his dream, Lehi saw both helps to exhaltation – the path and the iron road – and hindrances – the mists of darkness and the filthy river. It occurred to me that in real life, in this mortal situation we are all now in, both the nature and the degree of the helps and hindrances, and the relative balance between helps and hindrances, might not be random. In the context of Lehi’s dream, how was it decided how thick, or thin, the mists of darkness should be, and how was it decided how wide or narrow the path should be? The value of these variables would have had a significant impact on how many people ended up at the tree and how many ended up at the river. To give a more concrete example, one help we have on our path is the guidance of the Spirit, and one hindrance is the temptations of the devil. I suspect that to a certain extent these two forces – the pull towards good from the Spirit, and the pull towards evil from the devil – are an ever present, constant part of the conditions under which we all live, but the degree to which they influence individual’s actions depends to some extent on factors specific to the actor. So then I started to wonder who decided, and how was it decided, what the helps and hindrances would be, what the balance between them would be, and what factors determined what the balance was going to be. It seems to me that the relative balance between these two forces will have a greater impact than a great many other factors in determining the ultimate outcome of the Plan of Salvation, so I think it might be worth wondering how that balance came to be. I’m wondering if it’s something that God decided entirely according to His own free will, or was it something that had to be decided in accordance with some sort of universal law that God is subject to, or did He simply approve a recommendation from the relevant Plan of Salvation design committee, or perhaps it is what it is because that’s how it has always been, worlds without end. Any thoughts, comments, questions or answers on any part of these musings would be welcome. I realise that much of this is speculative and that there might not be a lot that is readily transparent in the scriptures or modern day prophetic teachings on these questions however I don’t see that as a barrier to considering different possibilities; it just means that we have to exercise caution in how much reliance we can place on any conclusions we may come up with.
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    Oregon Woman sues Church for reporting abuse

    Just by way of information, some time last year, one of the states in Australia passed legislation removing the protection of the confession. Leading Catholic bishops in that state have said they will not comply with that legislation. I believe that another state is now preparing similar legislation.
  8. I'm not sure if you have this kind of slang in the US, but from my reading of these posts, it appears that somebody is being taken for a ride.
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    I desperately need some advice :(

    Hi @kiwigirl1 this is probably not what you want to hear and I hope I have time to write a more considered answer later, but my initial thought is that no one, ever, has enough information to make a sound decision about what they do or do not deserve. How does anybody make that calculation? How can anyone decide what they do or don't deserve? When we start talking about what blessings we think we deserve, or what happiness we deserve, it seems to suggest that we know the ratio, or the formula or the rate at which obedience and longsuffering is translated into peace and happiness. We never know how much good stuff - scripture reading, prayer, temple attendance, service, fidelity, honesty, etc - will translate into how much good outcomes - peace, happiness, love, stability, etc. To think that a certain amount of good stuff means that you deserve something good and that you want it now, and that if you don't get what you feel you deserve, when you want it then you will do something not good, well that, to me, sounds like potentially dangerous thinking, with a strong focus on self. We can't know the rate of exchange whereby good deeds result in good outcomes, but God does, and He sees and knows all and he rewards each according to their desires and deeds, sometimes now, and sometimes later, and sometimes in the next life. Two scriptures to ponder 14 Ye have said, It is vain to serve God: and what profit is it that we have kept his ordinance, and that we have walked mournfully before the LORD of hosts? 15 And now we call the proud happy; yea, they that work wickedness are set up; yea, they that tempt God are even delivered. 16 ¶ Then they that feared the LORD spake often one to another: and the LORD hearkened, and heard it, and a book of remembrance was written before him for them that feared the LORD, and that thought upon his name. 17 And they shall be mine, saith the LORD of hosts, in that day when I make up my jewels; and I will spare them, as a man spareth his own son that serveth him. 18 Then shall ye return, and discern between the righteous and the wicked, between him that serveth God and him that serveth him not. (Old Testament | Malachi 3:14 - 18) 1 THEN said he unto the disciples, It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come! 2 It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones. (My own personal interpretation is that this verse might apply equally as well to offended spouses, and not just little ones) 3 ¶ Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. 4 And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him. 5 And the apostles said unto the Lord, Increase our faith. (New Testament | Luke 17:1 - 5)
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    Temples and Adult Converts

    Pretty much all active LDS parents would be absolutely delighted that their children are planning to be married in the temple, and, I believe, would generally do all they could to bring about such an outcome.
  11. This chant of net blessings / gross blessings reminds me of something that one of my former Stake Presidents repeatedly taught. He would often say if you almost keep the commandments, you almost get the blessings. He said it so often that eventually i started to think about it. What I understood from what he was saying was that anything less than 100% of keeping the commandments was the same as almost keeping the commandments, and that if you were only almost keeping the commandments, you were almost, meaning not, receiving the blessings. I eventually came to the conclusion that this teaching of "if you almost keep the commandments you almost receive the blessings" was not a true teaching as it implies that complete perfection in keeping the commandments is necessary in order to receive blessings and it fails to take into account those who try hard to keep the commandments but are not completely successful. I believe that to some extent, blessings are proportional to the degree of obedience, and it is not the case that complete obedience is required before the blessings can start to flow. I believe it would be more correct to say that if you keep all the commandments, then you will receive all the blessings and that if you keep something less than all the commandments all the time, then you will receive something less than all the blessings. On another note, I knew someone who was penniless most of his life and would move from one temporary job to another, often with periods of unemployment in-between. When he really needed more money for some kind of special need, he would give much more than 10% in his tithing in the belief that the Lord would, in return, bless him with what he needed. He told me of at least two occasions when he did this, and he received the blessing that he needed and had been anticipating.
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    Revelation that separates spouses

    Even if the revelation is true, I can't see any reason why it should be a reason for him to changes his behaviour in mortality. If it's true that he's going to marry this woman in the next life, then he's going to marry this woman in the next life, regardless of whether or not he becomes friends with her here and now. If its true that he's going to marry her in the next life, then its in the next life that he needs to start building an association with her, not now. Perhaps you could ask him why, or on what basis, he needs to start developing an acquaintance with her here and now, given that the revelation said that he will marry not here and not now. I can't see any logical connection between him receiving a revelation that he will marry someone else in the next life, and the need for him to start building a relationship with that person now. The revelation does not explain or excuse the behaviour. On a related matter, many years ago, a sister in another ward told my mum that she had received a spirtual impression that in the eternities she will marry my brother. My brother was already dead at that time and was single at the time he died, with no current romantic interest. I can't remember if the sister who said this was already married at the time she said this to my mum. However, even after she was married, she continued to believe that she would marry my brother in the next life.
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    Revelation that separates spouses

    If. after all this time, and all this fasting and prayer, you still haven't received a confirmation of the truthful of what he claims, then it is probably not true.
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    The conditional testimony

    I think its helpful to take things one step at a time, knowing that with each step we take, we grow in strength and ability to take even longer, harder steps in the future. By the time we get to the future, what seemed like a hard step when viewed from the beginning, may well end up being just another small step.
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    JS - History 1:31

    I wander if there is any significance in the fact that before the temple ordinances had been introduced, Joseph did not see Moroni wearing temple garments, but after the temple ordinances has been introduced, when Wilford Woodruff and others saw these three messengers, they were wearing template garments?