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You're new to this thing and it's going to play a very big role in your marriage. He needs to understand that. Both of you process these things differently. Your way of handling arguments -- sleeping on it -- is very common. I'd venture to say about 50% of everyone out there handles it better that way. He also needs to understand that. I can't count the number of couples I've met that are the same way. Like I said, it's an imperfect situation with no perfect solution. None of the couples solve it the same way, but you do have to come an understanding on it.

8 years of marriage to the same scenario here. My wife always wants to work it out now. I'm better off sleeping on it because I know my emotions will be calmed down by morning and I'll be able to talk clearly and not have my emotions leading me to say anything stupid. Well ... we sort it before we go to bed because she can't sleep otherwise. It's one of those many things where there's no perfect solution. Her need to solve it now wins out every time, but it also tends to disproportionately favor my point of view in solving things. More often than not, she says sorry first and I calm down. Then we discuss it. Every time, I wouldn't have been ready to say I'm sorry till morning when I could think straight.

Church leaders have repeatedly counseled the membership of the Church on this matter. Testimony meeting is not the place for travel-logs, nor is it the place for long stories and updating you on the latest news and gossip. Bearing your testimony is incredibly simple. You tell what you know just like a witness on the witness stand. Stories should all clearly lead to the same thing: Testifying that you know Jesus Christ is your Savior, that this Church is his Church and testifying of all the truths that go along with that.A witness on the witness stand is a decent litmus test. Imagine yourself as a witness in a trial to determine if the Church is God's true Church and that the Gospel is true. Now take your story and imagine the courtroom judge asking the question, "Is this witnesses story leading somewhere?" A recent story of how you came to better know and verify the truthfulness of this Gospel -- any part of it -- is obviously a good thing. Many times, these are the most powerful testimonies because they give real-world examples of coming to know the truth. On the other hand, a story that is being told just for the sake of storytelling, or updating the Ward on what's new in your life, or anything like that. If you can't honestly say that your story is "leading somewhere" then Testimony Meeting is probably not the place for it. To add to that, I think that plain and simple words are generally a lot more powerful. "I know that the Gospel is true with every fiber of my being." That's all very nice but very vague and uses a lot of unnecessary big words. "The Gospel" is a very broad term, and you could mean a lot of things there. Also, if you what if somebody doesn't know what the word "Gospel" means? How does a young child or nonmember make sense out of, "every fiber of my being"? Wouldn't it be better to say, "I know God lives. I know that he sent his Son Jesus Christ to pay for our sins and bring us back to God, who is our Father in Heaven. I know that this Church is His Church. I know that Book of Mormon is the word of God. I know that Joesph Smith is a true prophet sent by God to restore is Church to the earth and that President Monson is God's living prophet today. I know these things are true because the Spirit has told me so powerfully that I can feel it in every part of my body right now." Share your stories that point towards testifying of these truths.

Well, there comes a time when a man could use a bit of LDS interaction in his life. Okay, about me. I'm 33, married and currently don't have any children yet. I served a 2 year mission in Oklahoma. I was born and raised in the LDS Church, but I do find the study of every other religion under the sun to be absolutely fascinating. I suppose I'm secure enough in my own beliefs that what others choose to believe doesn't generally bother me. I typically have an opinion on everything. Currently, I could use a bit of discussion paired with anonymity. I'll post more on that in the relevant forum.