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So many good things have happened. Sorry that I have not updated anyone. I moved and when I did a friend of mine come to me and asked me to help them get groceries for him and his child. He was having a tough month. So I spent my cable money on helping him so was without phone, internet and cable for a month. Well worth it. Anyway it is now hooked up so I can give you the update. First my husbands court date came up and it got post poned to the 1st of October. I talked to the crown prosecuter and he agree to request an extension on the No Contact order. He will ask for the longest extension period. Also Court for the kids came. Here is the low down. I am no longer on supervised visits. My husband is though. Also starting Thanksgiving weekend I get the kids every 3rd weekend. Then I get them for Christmas holidays. THe full 2 weeks. Then I get them every other weekend after that. THen I get them for Easter week and then the boys stay with me completely after that. When the school year ends then my daughter will be permiantly back home as well. I jumped for joy. So all is going fantastic. I see the kids every week. This past Saturday I took them to DQ and to two parks. This coming Friday I am hoping to take them to McDonalds and then swimming. I love just being able to pick them up and go. I just wanted to share this wonderful update with you all and let you all know why I have not been online. Chat soon

I have been working my butt off today. Moving boxes, unpacking boxes, changing my address, making phone calls. I am soooo exhausted. Tomorrow we move the remainder of everything. All the furniture and so on. The sad part is though I did get a call from Victims assistance. There is a warrant out for his arrest but they have yet to find him. So they warned me to keep alert and if anything seems suspicios to not hesitate in calling the police. So I am worried that he might have been watching me move today. Meaning he would know where I live and ruin the reason for moving into hiding agian. Hopefully he is caught soon.

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lol Yup I am 67 pounds of intense white energy with a very protective nature for kids and home.

He has no idea who my best friend is, what she drives or where she lives. He has never met her. She is a friend I met after we seperated. But I understand your warnings completely

I actually moved into hiding. Within 2 months though, even though he lives over 2 hours away, he found my location. So I am moving agian into hiding tomorrow. All my neighbours know and my best friend lives across the street from the new place I am moving too.

It certianly is tough. I had a feeling he would pull something and be there today so I ensured my friends would be there as well just in case I needed witnesses. THe no contact order is up November 2, though because of this breach his probation and the no contact order could be extended. If not I am going to talk to the Crown Prosecuter and based on the continue stalking, breaches and harrassment ask for an extension. I want it to stay in place even once we are divorced.

Just got a phone call from is PO officer. He had called in to her and told her that he was standing outside of the building and when I came out and saw him that I just freaked out and called the police. LOL She of course called me. I told her what truely happened and also that it was not just me that reported it but also a witness. I also told her that there is now a warrent out for him and that she can verify it with the police. So the police have both statements. She then said well I had set up some things he was suppose to start attending in September but since he will be in jail I guess I will put that on hold. She then thanked me and said she would contact me later. Still lieing to cover his actions. At least he can't pull the wool over his PO eyes.

This day turned out to be nothing of what I suspected. First the court case. It went as my lawyer hoped. THe department withdrew their permant gaurdianship order and now want to negotiate with my lawyer about me getting the kids. The next court date is scheduled for September 17th. But they will be having a meeting with my lawyer in the mean time and making decisions there. So it went just as we hoped. I should be getting the kids within 3 weeks. Now for the WOW part. First my husband did show up. He came into the courtroom looking for me. When I saw him I was in total shock. Shock that he could let himself go like this. He showed up to court by himself in a green shirt with cut off sleeves, a black cowboy hat, dirty tan jeans, a mullet(long hair in the back and the head shaved, and a new tatoo on his arm. He hadn't even bothered to shave. He used to take pride in his appearance, he used to care about how he looked and the image he put across. He is 32 and looked like a dirty old man who just got there from work. I only saw him out of the corner of my eye and refused to acknowledge him. I had my 3 friends there and I had dressed up in a really nice suit. My friends and I were smiling and laughing and chatting about the up coming cases. As soon as he spotted me he took a seat 2 rows back and to my left right were he could keep an eye on my. One of my friends said he stared at me the entire time. Personally I didn't care I was too excited about the case. When they called my case I stood up and went and stood next to my lawyer. My husband came right up dehind me and stood only a few inches in back of me. He was litterally breathing down my neck. As soon as he spoke and I realized he was there I got closer to my lawyer. He made me really nervous. But after the judge finished with us he rushed out so I thought that was the end of it. I then went out and talked to my lawyer for another 20 minutes. No sign of my husband in the hall or main part of the building and my friends were on the look out for him too. After we were done talking we excited the building and there he was. Leaning agianst one of the floor stands. He looked up at me and said Hello to me and my name. I quickly turned around and entered the building. I told the security guards about the no contact order and that he just breached it. They called the police and then went out and told him to move. I went to the station and lodge an official complaint. We were there for over an hour as they took my statement and that of my friend who also had heard him. THen we left and headed for lunch. The crazy thing is my friends who were driving picked Burger King. We had no clue what my husband was driving and when we entered and ordered my friend turned around and saw him there with 2 of his friends and his girlfriend. Smiling I left. 2 of my friends stayed inside to get our order and my other friend phoned the police to let them know where he was since they were now looking for him. My husband left though 5 minutes before the police showed up. But one of my friends got the plate and make of the vehicle and noted that the girlfriend drove. When the police arrived we gave them the info and they radioed in that he was to be arrested on sight. I just got a call a little while ago from the police stating that they have yet to find him but there is now a warrant out for his arrest. Because he is noted as stalking me and has breached so many times they are not taking this lightly. What an interesting day.

Nope my lawyer is going for all three kids. She says it has been proven that the department and my parents are playing games and she no longer wants them to have any of the kids. Thanks for the support.

Well tomorrow is the date to find out custody of my kids. Whether I get them back or they stay in perminant custody of my parents(never going to happen). The department(social Services) is taking the stand that they want the children to stay in permant care with my parents. Their case revolves around several lies, ommitted facts and screwed up reports. All proveable to be so. They state that my psychiatrist does not think my mental health is stable and ready to parent(this is the only reason they would be able to keep my kids from me). Not true at all. My lawyer is armed with a letter from my psychiatrist refuting the lies of the department. THe case will most likely be adjourned for 2 or 3 weeks and then I will get my kids back. Tomorrow 4 of my friends will be in court with me to add their support. A couple from church, a lady from my womens group and my oldest friend. We have been friends since ninth grade. My husband will most likely be there as well. But I could care less. I got a new suit to wear and plan to walk right by him with my friends and completely ignore him. If he tries to talk to me then my friends and I will tell one of the officers there and he will be arrested for Breach. He may be allowed to be in the court house with me but he is still not allowed to talk to me. I am so excited to get my kids back. Yippe.

Just found out today that I will be getting my 2 youngest children back. My oldest will be staying with my parents for at least another year or two while she is in therapy. THey think it would hurt her to change cities and therapists and routines right now and I agree. It is not official yet. But they let me know it will happen. So at the end of August my boys are coming home. My addicted/abusive husband has no chance of getting custody of any of the kids so no worries there. Now I have the fun of finding a bigger place and moving. YIPPEE. Had to share the happy news.

I am home now. Didn't sleep a wink at the shelter. My head would not slow down. Nothing is missing from the house and there are no strange calls on the phone. So all is well. I doubt he is still in town, since he is living at his parents he has to account for his wearabouts. I feel much better and safe now too. Thanks for all the prayers and safety wishes. Makes me feel so much better that others are out there that care about what happens to me. Yes when I move he will most likely find me agian. That is why I have to keep using the resources that are here to keep myself safe.

THanks for the tip but I am not taking that chance.

Thanks. I should be moving at the end of August. In the province I am in there are no stalking laws. So until he either contacts me, stops me in public or breaks into my house there is nothing the police can do. I think that is not right. There is a no contact order. They should be stopping him from doing this. I have no idea how to make it stop either. I have moved into hiding once already. I have done everything the police, my lawyer, therpist and the womens shelter has told me to do. What else can I do to make him stop. I just want him out of my life. I am so tired of living in fear. I have been for 7yrs.