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  1. Dating question for sisters

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    I sort of get what you're saying. A newly married couple in my ward tried to get me together with a girl in our ward and then they told me to check out all the girl's on the singles ward site and to let them know if I was interested in anyone. I told them I was really looking to get involved, for a reason I won't get into here, but I told them. So, I can see why a person might be single, but not "looking."

    I may understand your situation. I get it.

    In complete honesty- if someone were to ask me out that I were interested in, I would say no. It happens. So even if she says no, just realize she may not be "on the market" even though she is single. She may not be ready to date. I'm not.

    Does any of that make sense?

  2. Dating question for sisters

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    Yes, I think we actually do have some Stake thing coming up. There's more to my situation that I'd rather not get into though, so I don't expect anyone to fully understand my situation.

    Do you have events for singles at a stake level in your area? It would be worth checking out that way you have more opportunities to meet different women.

  4. Dating question for sisters

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    Hi Bing. Thanks for replying. I just don't think people replying understand my situation. There literally is no one else in my age-range in my ward. There's some older, but I'd like to have kids, my own, so they're not suitable and the one that I'm attracted to that's older is a new member and has issues with Word of Wisdom and is going to get all of her... female parts taken out so....

    I guess that's still kind of sort of their point though..

    You should interact (mixing and mingling) with even those you perhaps don't initially see as "prospect" because who knows what will bloom from a seemingly platonic-lets-just-be-friends hangout. I went on a lot of dates, many of them I was uninterested in the guy but I wanted to give it a chance and get to know him for him. In fact, my husband is an example of someone I had not initially seen as potential husband material—but he totally was and is! So I think the point was to view the bigger picture while dating. Don't place unnecessary boundaries on yourself with the mindset that this particular person etc etc is more likely to be spouse material than another. You just can't possibly know. But I did read your comment and of course, finding people suitable in your age group and interests plays a big factor in compatibility as well. But then again, on another note, my husband is almost 20 years older than me and when we first met we had absolutely NOTHING in common. We have been married about three years now and all our memories are great ones we've made along the way, developing new interests and hobbies together too.

    Best of luck with asking this girl out :]

  5. Dating question for sisters

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    No, my main point is that I live in an area where there's not many single members. She's literally the only single in my ward that's in my age-range, etc. The others in my area are mostly too young or too old or something like that. And if there were 20 girls in my "range" I'd still be interested in her.

    Maybe I didn't use the right words before, but when I said "the one" I meant I'm interested in her. Or meaning I'm interested in her enough to even consider her that way. There's others that I'm attracted to or whatever, but I don't consider them a prospect.

    But Funky's point is a good one: you think she could be "the one" because she's the only one you're interested in? In that case, find some other women to be interested in too. Don't confuse availability with suitability. Trust me on that one.

  6. Dating question for sisters

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    Oh come on, I'm not going to attack her with, "sooo... how many kids do you want to have...?" :) I meant she could be the one as far as I consider her a prospect. I know VERY little about her, so I really can't say if we'll even get along one-on-one - personality wise. :)

    She's the only one in my ward that I'm interested in on that level.

    Just as an aside, EQ:

    When you ask her out, do not go out assuming she could be The One. That will frighten off (Nearly) every girl. Go out with the intention of having fun. If it works out, great! If not, you both had fun.

    If you go in thinking, 'Could she be the one?' then you will sabotage yourself.

  9. Dating question for sisters

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    Ok, I'll be more direct. I've always an interest for this girl in my ward. I go to to a family ward and there's not many singles at all and actually she's the only one that I'm really interested in. My wanting to go out with her would be romantic. Meaning, maybe she could be the one. I have a hard time reading her, so I'm not really sure how she feels about me. And yes, I've wondered what would happen if it went bad between us and we had to see each other every week. I'm not talking about all that, my question was about if a woman would decline a date from a guy she was interested in.

    I mean that was my question. And yes, I know there's other variables, but that was my question. I'm rushing now, so I hope I've made sense. :)

    To your first questions I was going to say no. But then when you put it differently my answer may change depending on a number of things.

    Are you talking about the concern of being uncomfortable if that date went sour being that you have to see that person often. From my own recent experience if you keep the date on a friend level it will be just that, like an outing with a friend. I haven't experienced a date with someone from my ward (we only have like 2 single Bros lol) but if I went on a friendly informal date with him it wouldn't bother me. I would go on a date with him. A date is just that, a date.

    With that said I can see how some might decline a date with someone in their ward even if they were interested.

    I wouldn't decline a date with him just because he was in my ward. But just like any date I would have a clear boundary set. Try to keep deep emotions out of the conversations. Keep the conversation light.

  10. Dating question for sisters

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    Hello. I have a question. If you were a single sister and you were interested in a single brother in your ward and he asked you out, would you go out with him? Or to put it different, would you ever be interested in a brother in your ward and decline to get together with him if you were interested?

    Thanks

  13. "Confidential Report on Proposed Temple Ordinance Workers"

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    Posted · Edited by EQ_Guy
    update

    Does anyone know if I can get this form from LDSCatalog? I'm on the site now, but can't seem to find it. I've even come upon "Church Handbook of Instructions, Book 1" but have no luck with that Temple Worker form. I know a person can go thru the Temple, but my bishop would like to get it started from our ward.

    The Distribution center hasn't opened for business yet today, so I thought I'd try here.

    Thanks a lot.

    UPDATE: I just called the Distribution Center. The person said it's not available on the ward OR stake level. Only Temples have it.

  16. Dating in ward while being Ward Executive Secretary

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    You're right on the money. Some assume I know why they're seeing the bishop and sometimes I have to tell them I don't know because sometimes I don't know. And what if I dated a girl and it went bad and then she didn't want to talk with me anymore, but she had to see the bishop. Do you think she might delay going thru me and making an appt?

    This is addressed to whoever reads this post by the way.

    Because you're intimately familiar with who is meeting with the bishop on a regular basis, and -- in some cases, maybe even knowing why -- it could be awkward. Mostly I think others might not be comfortable with how much they think EQG might know about them, real or perceived.

  19. Bishop calling you as ward executive secretary

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    Sorry for the super-slow reply, I haven't logged onto this site in weeks. I'd work with someone that didn't like me. I wasn't saying my bishop doesn't though, it was just a question.

    Good Bishops don't let personal feelings of disdain or "not liking" someone interfere with the Lord's work. Good Bishops may understand that they might have a personal issue with someone, but maturity demands they set it aside in order to forward the work of the kingdom.

    In other words, the answer to your question is yes.

    Maybe a good question back for you: Are you willing to serve, despite holding a perspective that someone you are working closely with might not like you?

    LM

  20. Bishop calling you as ward executive secretary

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    What is W.E.S?

    I make appointments and get people for opening and closing, but I'm also ordering things from LDSCatalog, updating the ward's website, etc. For me, it's easier to work with/for people that I get along with.

    Thanks for your reply.

    Possibly, especially if he works on inspiration. I never really wondered if the Bishop like or dislikes me - he does his duty and I do mine, likes and dislikes don't really enter into it. My duty (as Ward Exec Sec) is to do whatever the Bishop needs me to do. In my case its; making his appointments and calling people to speak and pray in Sacrament meeting.

    Every calling I have had has allowed me to grow, both temporally and spiritually.

    In having a couple minutes to think about it, I neither really like nor really dislike my Bishop. He is a man trying to do the best he can in his calling but he is also human -- nevertheless I raised my hand to sustain him and I will. I also accepted his calling me to be W.E.S. and I will do the best I can at that.

  21. Bishop calling you as ward executive secretary

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    Thanks for sharing that, but my question is do you think in general a bishop would call someone as ward executive secretary if he, bishop, didn't like the guy?

    In general I have determined that no bishop can ever do anything to convince me that I should take his place. I do sustain and support my bishop. Also I have served in callings with others I did not really like all that much. I began to really understand this problem on my mission.

    A bishop has enough to worry about - it is the executive secretary calling to insure that the bishop does not need to worry about the politics (if any) in the ward - even if they need to take the blame (because of politics).

    The Traveler

  24. Sacrament opening and closing prayers

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    Posted · Edited by EQ_Guy
    typo

    This is like a follow-up post about the last one about sacrament prayers. I've noticed that in my ward often they'll have a married couple give the opening and closing. Recently I was asked to give the opening, I'm single, and they had a single sister give the closing. Do you think the bishopric was trying to send me some kind of message by having both of us give the prayers on the same day? :blush: