First you need to give her some breathing room. The scriptures are a great source if a person is ready to go down the path of forgiveness. It does not sound like she is ready. If I was in her shoes, I would get my gander up if someone was trying to fix a problem I had. You are male and you want to fix it. That is the way we are. She has to come to terms by herself. You just need to listen and be there for her. I am sure you are, but are impatient. Perhaps in your family prayers include that we all need to forgive tresspassers. Many of which do not know they have even offended us. I have spent to many years holding grudges and being offended. Some have been not only serious, morally, but financial offensives. What a totally waste of time and energy. But one has to want to give up feeling of being offended. Many times we use it as a crutch to rationalize our actions. So be patient my friend.