What is the one thing about yourself that you are working on making better? Maybe you need to learn to love yourself again. Or being able to have trust again in a relationship. Do you have a fear of another failure. These are just examples. Why do you feel this is something about yourself that you need to work on making better. Since separating I look back at how i was and see a million mistakes, or things I could have done differently. I think maybe if I had ______ he wouldn't have left. Right now I'm just trying to find some happiness within myself. Do you think you are more picky now compared to how you were when you were let's say 20 years old? Maybe picky isn't the best word... let's use more experienced and have a much better idea of what you will or will not put up with in a relationship. I think there are some things that i put up with that I wouldn't want to deal with again. Before I did all the cooking/cleaning/paperwork ect. Basically everything except work his job. (Which he did do well to support his family) But I would like someone who would be willing to help if needed, and not make me feel like a failure cause I just can't do it all. If you were married and now separated/divorced do you enjoy this time alone? Do you feel like you are getting to know your true self again? Finding interests that were deep beneath which are coming back to the surface again. At this point I am so tired of being alone, I have had enough alone time. Do you miss being married? I'm not asking if you miss your ex/stbx-spouse, no I'm asking if you miss being married. HELL YES, I loved being married. Maybe I was blind, but I truly did love being married, and just having that one other person. Looking at where you were 6 months to a year ago do you see drastic changes in yourself or subtle changes? I feel stuck in so many ways... What degree of contentment do you feel now compared to 6 months to a year ago with your new life and future? Its slowly getting better What is the one thing that you learned about yourself that you didn't know was there? And how has it changed you in your day to day life? (example, you realize that you have a pulse?) No matter how your heart is broken, the world doesn't stop for your grief. Finally, where do you see yourself 5 years from now? (Life, relationship, career, family, etc) Hopefully teaching since I finished my degree, as for the rest of it, who knows.