Irritating computers. I had a lengthy message when my computer went berserk and lost everything. GRRR!!!!!
Martie, asking about how my husband's habits affect my body image. I am 5'2" and about 110 lbs. while 6 months pregnant. I don't think that my husband finds anything wrong with my body except my chest (he's suggested surgery when we're done with kids, but that will be wasted money because he'll still be "seeing his girlfriends" [what else would you call them?]) and the length of my hair (he likes long, which I tried for over two years of marriage. It is still longer than when we met and he fell in love with me, but he wants it half way down my back or whatever, and it's not something that fits me!). Unfortunately I don't even remember the last time he told me I like nice (has he ever?), and that kind of bothers me, but I figure that if I think I look good that's good enough. He's never said that I don't look good, so maybe it's just part of his personality.
You also asked if I hate leaving the house, leaving him with the computer. We have two computers in our house, one in his office (accessed only through our bedroom) and one in my office (next to our bedroom). Because of his work schedule he's on the computer a lot when he gets home from work, which is right when I'm sleeping, so I have no idea how long he's online and what he's looking at.
Monica's comment has me shaking my head. This is a husband, not a boyfriend, and it's not so easy to just dump him! One of my own concerns has been "what does he do with the kids when I'm not around" (my second daughter will be born the end of this year)? Many times when I've left my daughter with my husband while I'm out with my church calling she is sitting in front of the television while he's on the computer doing who knows what.
ApostleKnight, you said, "sometimes I just wonder how men like your husband would feel if they came home and found you browsing male porno sites." I asked my husband about this and he said it wouldn't bother him. He would like it if I was watching the movies with him (it makes me sick even watching some of the mini sex scenes where nothing is even showing!). So he doesn't care if I view things, but if I got involved with a man over the internet, getting to know him, that's off limits. There's another issue at our house because my husband is always "too busy" for his family when he's at home because he's busy with the yard, the house, in his office (researching hunting things and who knows what else). Our anniversary was three days ago, and while we had thought about spending the night in a hotel alone, he's always so concerned about spending money (on anyone but himself) that I suggested saving the money. At the last minute (7:45pm!!!) we were looking online to see what movies were playing, but ended up driving up a hill to watch the sunset (we missed the sun setting but sat and watched and talked for a little while after) then went out for ice cream.
Sorry, I'm done going on and on about this subject (I could go on and on). I think having things in common between spouses helps a lot, and that's something we seem to be lacking, especially wanting to communicate with each other.
The article in the August Ensign has been mentioned a couple of times. I saw and read it right away and hoped that maybe my husband would also see it, but I think he only opens the Ensign to read the home teaching message.
This probably wasn't all that I had wanted to say to begin with, but oh well. If you have any other questions let me know.
