Tommy2Tone

Here here!

Let me first state that this is my first reply after coming on this forum infrequently for a year or so. This post made me want to say something as someone who can relate exactly. I have been a member my whole life and am currently an active temple going/recommend holding member with a calling and we pay tithing. On my mission a girl from my ward wrote me and we dated as soon as I got home. Shortly after we began a sexual relationship that lasted years. We were both committed and remained active, but I suppose our will power was weak and our hormones strong. When we were done with school we got married civilly by our bishop and met with him sporadically for a year while taking temple prep classes. I never got exed, neither did she. We were then sealed a year later in the temple and life has been peachy king. Obviously this isn't the path I'd recommend, but this is one way that it can happen. I don't know if our easy ride through that time was due to our full activity, I've heard from friends or friends of friends that went through similar situations that got dealt with more harshly. I can't speak for their full actions. I don't know if it involved drinking, partying, multiple partners, drugs, lost testimonies or what. My wife and I have never doubted the church for a second and are very active and cheerful social members. This might be why it was so easy with us and our bishop. Hope this helps.