angie1

Hello! All I can say is that I married a non-member being active in the church. I t made me realize how much I needed the Gospel in my life. Everyone does. My testimony has grown so much since. Please return to the church. People may think we "pull" people to the church to gain membership or popularity, but in reality, we know the Gospel is soooo grand. and we truly believe it to be the key of happiness. You baby boy will be raise in the church and will have a much easier life with the Gospel. I truly believe that if I did not have the Gospel in my life during my teen years, I would have gotten pregnant, have a drinking problem and probably have a lot more issues. Being a member of the church helped me over come my temptations and yes, it was hard. I was tempted everyday. But having the knowledge and faith. It made is easier to say NO! I hope you return to the Gospel and hope your family can one day be sealed in the temple. That your boy will grow up with the Spirit and love life, the Gospel and have the Spirit in your home. Good luck!

Thank you all! It truly warms my heart reading your advice and your prayers are the best!. To answer some questions, Abusive meant.. him pushing me onto the floor, pulling my hair, pushing me out the door, choking me once, breaking things in front of me. Me... I broke a glass when I was scared.. I guess that's a dumb way of reacting. I sometimes would be bruised in my arms and legs and when people would ask, Id make up a lie. He has NOT done that again. But can be verbally abusive. I feel like respect is gone. I feel distant. I guess because I have not felt safe in a long time. I know he is new to the church, but I "babysit" him by asking him to wear appropriate clothing to church or to attend to church. He is not supportive of me taking some institute classes that I was advised by my bishop to attend. He says it's a waste of time that I could be using to attend regular school. I miss a joyous relationship. I don't think one is happy EVERY TIME OF DAY, but I wish I could be happy at least one moment of everyday. I used to have that.

Hello! Please read my story, I really need advice. Well my situation is very tough.. for me anyways. You see, I dated a non-member for a couple of years and got married at 18. I was in love with him and even though our relationship was rocky, I married him. I guess my testimony was not as strong back then, because as the time passed by, I realized how much I needed the COMPLETE Gospel. I couldn't hang a picture up of the temple, or felt uncomfortable practicing my own beliefs around him (because it would bother him) After a while, things got bad. Our fights got physical and he would kick me out of the house and left me out in the street sometimes in the middle of the night. I began to fear my spouse and relationship. We have no children. One day, I decided to just get separated. I asked my mom if I could move in for a little. So I took my things and left. My husband was very hurt and would not leave me alone. He would call me nonstop all day. One day, he talked to the missionaries on his own. He got the talks and got baptized a month later. He begged for me to come back and I did because I felt that was what I HAD to do. I did not WANT to but I was willing to go back and see how things were. We took some marriage courses in the church. It has been for months since we got back together and since he got baptized. I do not like who I am in this relationship and I feel like I still cannot have the full experience of the gospel in my home. I know he does not agree with a lot of things of the Gospel, I constantly have to be babysitting him with attending church, or things like that. Every day, I have thought of leaving and finding someone truly worthy. I CRAVE that. I feel like I deserve a more respected relationship. I am a person that is fun and laughs a lot with EVERYTHING and I feel like I cannot do that around him because I "annoy" him. He will get very angry at me and cuss at me. I hate that I really wish I could end this marriage and find someone that will make me truly happy. My fear is that nobody will love or accept me because of me having a divorce. I will be 21 in November and I feel like it is too late to give up. I love the gospel and I feel like my testimony has grown soooooooooooooooo much in the last year. Please advise me. Thank you for taking the time to read my story