Are you really in New Zealand? Is it as beautiful there as everyone claims? --I am in New Zealand yes. Lived here most of my life apart from 2 years when I was younger and my family lived in Australia. One suggestion I could give, is that you might consider getting on your knees and praying to your heavenly father. There is something about saying the words out loud. Tell Him what you're telling us. Let Him know you feel lost and don't know what to do. Ask Him for guidance, comfort, whatever it is you are yearning for. See what Welcome! ---Great suggestion. I had thought of that but I guess in a way I'm worried about doing that. Maybe I'm worried I'll get the answers I know I need to hear and then that scares me top because I'm at times afraid of change. I'm also worry too much about things when I don't h e a full plan with the what if this happens. I always have a back up. I've thought about attending church though I also worry there as the stake I am in is the stake in which my husband and I moved into when we got married and everyone lnows us so that makes me worry too. Like isaid a worry wart :)