Is it possible to have married someone to actually find your real soul-mate? I've been married 2 years, we are both members a but inactive since we've moved, but didn't get married in the temple. I kind of feel we rushed into this marriage we were dating for about 9 months after I returned from my mission and then he proposed. I am originally from Texas and my husband from New York. Throughout our 2 years of marriage we constantly would fight because he wanted to move back to New York and I didn't. All of my family is in Texas, he has no one in New York, but friends. I finally decided to look at the positives of New York, so we can stop the fighting, I found a school and work. We've been here in New York for 3 months now, I've been working, haven't started school yet. I really like it here it's different, but I've become accustomed.
Well on my trips to work on the bus I met a guy, a friend which is all I wanted, someone new to talk to. He worked across the street from where I work and he lives close to where I live so we would take the bus together. He changed jobs, but through his friends he tracked me down and asked for my number to continue talking. I told my husband he was fine with it. A few weeks later he tells me he is in love with me. I told him all I wanted was his friendship. But as he texts me it feels good to be wanted, my husband never texts me let alone calls me to tell me he loves me. This guy does, in every text he writes it. He's cried to me, telling how he feels and how he didn't think all this would be happening to him about loving me. I sometimes try to get my husband to do or say the things this other guy does, but it just doesn't happen.
Basically everything about this guy is what I've oh so hoped for my husband to do one of these many things, the texts, the calls, the many I love you's. The willing to do anything for me. I find more and more things in common with him than with my husband. I've talked to him about my beliefs in church and how I've always wanted someone to love my Heavenly Father more than he loves me. I don't know what to do, I love my husband and I don't want to hurt him, but then again I don't know if he truly loves me, I kind of feel like he rushed when he asked me to marry him and then regretted asking I think now he feels obligated to stay with me now that we're married and he's afraid of what people think.
My husband and I just get into many fights for little reasons, but it's annoying, he gets after me as if I'm a child, instead of being compassionate or letting me know of my mistakes, and it's always "my mistakes." I could care less of what people think about my marriage whether it survived or not. I just don't want to live the rest of my life with someone who feels obligated to stay with me. I've been praying constantly to find an answer from my Heavenly Father, I just don't know what to do. Has anyone gone through something similar or heard of stories of how people have met their spouses?
