Truther

1. Apparently it is a calling from the lord to clean the ward building. Shouldn't this at least be a paid job. I know there are members out there that could use the job, and if the church can afford to build a Mall they can afford a Janitor. 2. My daughter, as a young women, may or may not have discussed sex with a grown man alone , behind closed doors. I don't know how to ask her, but I will , and if it is true. Some one will be answering to me! This is not cool! 3. Some have verified that if my daughter gets married civilly , she will have to wait an extra year to receive her eternal marriage, just so her father can participate in her wedding. Extremely LAME! This is NOT family friendly! It is EXCLUSIVE! I don't know how I got through 25+ years of marriage to a Mormon and only learn these things by coming on this site. What have you done to my wife and daughter to cause them to be to stressed for me to ask these questions. What Am I going to find out next time I come on here..... I am now committed. I have so many more questions now and I am determined to find the TRUTH. Right now I feel that you as a Church have made me appear ineffective as a husband and father and that my family is just too nice to tell me. Maybe they don't want me to find out this stuff, because they don't want me to feel unqualified in their eyes.

I came here to have discussions that I can't have with my family without stressing them out..I came here to get some info that would help me talk about it with them. But all I get is frustrated by stuff that makes no sense. I get my motives questioned which makes me not want to ask questions. She can talk to her bishop? seriously....? Does he have enough authority to change this insane rule? Are you saying that some people in the church get special treatment? I am starting to regret coming to this board, because everything I have learned tonight is scaring me away and making me want to take my family away from this church..Up until now I at least had hope.

@Ripplecutbuddha... you are very preachy and condescending.I know what home teachers are they come over every month, usually on the last day, late at night or on a Sunday afternoon while I am trying to spend my one day off with my family. I know about the priesthood. I don't believe that strangers have any more power from god to heal the sick than the prayer of a child.. In fact I believe the prayer of family friends and loved ones are more powerful that a couple strangers with some magic oil. The father of some very close friends got cancer and some men from the church came over and blessed him that he would get well and then he died the next day. So you can't tell me that these guys have the power to heal my wife or daughter if they get sick.. Although I did see some missionaries give the neighbor lady a blessing for her cold and she was miraculously healed three days later. I don't have a problem with neighbors looking out for neighbors. I have a problem with strangers calling my wife as if I am not capable I like the Relief Society. They actually do something when you need it, instead of calling up two or three times a month, at inconvenient times like the home teachers. They don't seem to need any kind of special power to help people. When my wife had surgery they brought food over and they cleaned my house for my wife while she was in bed healing. They just showed up and did it..... Never heard from the home teachers once. Probably because it wasn't the end of the month..

Soooo.....If she has a civil wedding, she can still attend in full membership and do everything was doing before she got married. Except she can't be sealed for a year. Her and her husband can do marriages for the dead, but not for themselves......Lame....Just sayin...... That just doesn't make sense. Why would a church punish someone for getting married outside the church, by making them wait a year ,on one hand, and on the other let them continue as if nothing was wrong.

I never did get the priesthood blessing thing........What can some stranger do for my wife that I can't. It hard for me to wrap my mind around the fact that some dude who barely knows me and my family can bless my family with better results than I can......But what else can they do? Seriously my wife knows you are there, and will call you, if she has some sort of obscure need that I cannot take care of, although I have no idea what that may be.

Are you telling me that the Mormon church doesn't believe in Crosses? My wife has been a Mormon all her life and she believes in Crosses. Why wouldn't the church have a cross on the temple? This is something I can ask her about, but I would love to get this straightened out on this discussion board.

As a husband to a member I am very uncomfortable with men from the church that have my wife's cell phone number and always call her to see if she "needs" anything. Or if there is something they can "do" for her. IS this normal. I think it is because it happens everywhere we live..... They are usually older men. Do Mormons think that non Mormon husbands are incapable of taking care of their Mormon wives needs?

Hi all, I am not a Mormon, but my wife and daughter are....My wife was born a Mormon and her family is multi-generationally full of members. Our daughter is also strong in the church. She has gone with my wife to church since she was born, and is one of the few women in the church to go to the temple without going on a mission or getting married.. She is 23 years old. Some times I have questions to ask ,that stress them out so, I am hoping to find a friendly place to ask these questions. I am a seeker of truth and have been looking inside the church for that truth. I have yet to find it, and as time goes by the search is more and more difficult. To me it is more important to find the truth than to insist I am right without opening my mind to other possibilities. In other words. I believe that someone who insists they know something as an absolute has automatically closed their mind to any other options. I would love to discover some shred of truth in your Church, that I can base some level of belief on, as this would really bring even more happiness to my wife and daughter. I feel that I should be clear , that I am not looking for someone to try and convert me as mush as those willing to answer my questions so that I can continue to try and wrap my mind around all this.

First of all I am not a Mormon, but my wife and Daughter are. My daughter is getting to the age where she will start looking for a husband and I have a few questions. She will most certainly marry a Mormon. She has already been to the Temple. 1. If she gets married civilly, it is my understanding that she will have to wait a year to get her temple marriage. Is this true? 2. If the answer to number one is true ( I think it is, but need confirmation), does getting married civilly make her unworthy to go to the Temple for that year she is waiting..... 3. If the answer to number 2 is true( I think it is, after all, why make them wait if they remain worthy?) My question is why does a non temple wedding make them unworthy? I can't find it in any of you books of doctrine.... I really want to ask my Daughter to have a Wedding that I can participate in, but I don't want her to compromise her standing in the church.