brian111

I have had anxiety my whole life and I currently take zoloft for it. I have received tons of psychology, psychotherapy and even experiential training as well as church. Certain forms of therapy will help to a point however if it is chemical as well then only treating it chemically will help. It is something you will need to discover. I will say this, the rights meds can change your life, the wrong meds are truly hell on earth. Always trust yourself as you make decisions about your mental and physical health. Getting tests done to see if your body is lacking anything I think could be a great eye opener. So it is either chemical, psychological or both and I think Eowyn pretty much nailed it. Exercise and eating well and enough sleep of course always helps.

I go because God is all I have. Without God I am alone and my life is lacking and hollow. It has reached a point with me where it is more painful not to go than to go. People are people and our struggles with people will always be there. We project what we believe about others so we can learn. The question is, do we? I think truly being a saint is one of the hardest things someone can do. Many are called but few are chosen to be a saint is my take. I believe the trick is getting to the point where it is not about the routine, but driven from within so that attendance and doing our callings and loving others is authentic and in no way a chore but is exciting and a desired challenge. We want to love ourselves and others anyway. We don't want to have to be told to. It is who we are anyway. The joy of moving beyond "I have to" and "I am supposed to" is one of the most wonderful things I can think of. As this started to happen for me I truly truly started to enjoy church. I was inactive for about 10 years friends. When I came back I went into the temple for the 1st time. I was about 28 then. I realized that everything about the gospel and the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day-Saints was what I wanted anyway! That was so amazing to me. In my heart of hearts, what I really wanted, was in the church and in Christs gospel. :) I have a strong testimony of my Savior. It is not something I can really explain. I can just say that I know he loves me. I don't know how to tell you I know. He is the opposite of the darkness and confusion of this world and that is most amazing and profound to me. That is why he is the greatest of all. He is the Light. He is truly the only place I want to turn to. As mortals we have to see him as a man sometimes so that we can relate however I don't think it really starts to set in until we start to see that he is a God more powerful than the sun full of sacredness and power and glory. The holiness in the temple reminds me of this :) I continue to go because the church is outwardly what I am inwardly. It is in similitude of what my spirit is really about. So it feels more like "home" there. I hope this makes sense :)

My ex was always the "molly mormon good girl". Sometimes molly good girls think life would be more exciting if they stopped being that way. Getting it out of their system so to speak. It is selfish and destructive, though of course addictions are as well. It is a good thing that relationships are good with your family and her family. Do you like your Bishop? He can be a huge help during this time. I would hold strong to the gospel like you never have before. This will be a rough ride. The way I have explained it to others with my ex-wife is that it is almost like she has had the One Ring around her neck like Frodo in LOTR and watching it change her. She is such a different person now in certain ways. She is never ever wrong in her eyes it seems. It seems to always be my fault. I would also recommend LDS and Family Services counseling. It can be a huge help if you have a good counselor. Of course they are not all created equal. I used to listen to conference talks every night before going to bed, positive things as much as possible. Also it was important for me to stay proactive and be busy doing good things, not be idle if possible. But we just do the best we can. That is all we can do. Anyways this hits so close to home. I wish you the best friend. Do all you can to keep the Spirit in your life :) -- I corrected some of what I wrote in this post earlier to clarify my meanings a bit --

Hey I was reading the posts on this thread tonight. Whew... I have been through this. My now ex-wife stopped wearing her garments and had an affair with her boss. I caught her by calling a friend she was supposed to be with and the friend was absolutely not hanging out with her for a "girls night out". She denies ever sleeping with him however I am pretty sure she did. If not then probably everything but. It is not what I ever wanted to believe however in hindsight I see how much she actually lied and I don't believe much of what she ever told me. She claims she didn't want to hurt me, which is a cop out. My belief is if someone really cares about you they will tell you the truth. I was just curious, what is your support system? A good support system is huge during something like this. Also who is on her side? Do her family members like you? Anyways just wanted to write and say that I have been through something similar and I'm feeling for you man.

Hey hows it going? My name is Brian and I am a single Dad with two awesome girls 3 and 6 years old. This seems like a good place to talk about spirituality and various things with a Latter-Day-Saint perspective as a basis. I'm glad to be here