What would I benefit from taking him off of our insurance? Two weeks ago he came to me with the worst case of strep I have ever seen - his tonsils were so horribly swollen he couldn't sip soup. One tonsil was nearly black. I thought he had gangrene of the tonsil!
If he hadn't been on insurance, I would have had to pay for it - what parent would do otherwise? - instead he just owes us for the co-pays. So no, I don't want to take him off of insurance and I feel like if I do, that will be vindictive. He is very independent but insurance is not available as part of his job right now.
I should mention that he has a slightly than lower IQ--probably comparable to a high functioning Down Syndrome--and is very small (5'2" and 95 +/- pounds) but very attractive and charismatic. Thankfully, he is able to hold down a job and pay his own bills but ran through $4,000 from his savings account in about 2 months after being out on his own. Probably with the encouragement of friends.
He is emotionally and functionally the age of maybe 12 or 13. He still needs our help to be out on his own (and trust me when I say I am NOT a helicopter mom. He really does need our help). He is trying hard to be completely independent and has not even come home once until his strep drove him back home. And I know what apartment complex he is in but not which apartment specifically so I let him live his life.