I'm new to the emotional affair victim myself. I have discovered my own husband of 24 years having one for the last 2 1/2 years. I know that in my situation that I decided that I was not happy in a medeocre marriage and that things have to change or I was done. It took several occasions of me "catching"him at his lies to finally give him the ultimatum to choose her or me. He didn't take me seriously until it happened and I was ready for divorce. I have given him another chance because of the remorse I have seen in him this time that I had not seen before. He seems committed to our marriage now where before I didn't see the committment before. We are also sealed in the temple which makes me more reluctant to give up just now. This will be the last chance though, I have decided this is it. I wish I could tell you that things are all happy and moving forward but it is too early for that in my case. I am still going through the grieving process since it has only been 2 weeks. We have made some advances forward and are finally talking about it. I can tell you that his desire for me had diminished and he even had some ED issues but it didn't mean that anything physical was happening elsewhere. I hope the best for you. My advice is to take care of yourself and really ask yourself what you are willing to live with. You are a precious daughter of God who deserves someone to love you and someone devoted to your happiness and wellbeing. Heavenly Fäther wouldn't want anything less for us. We deserve respect!!
