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Jane Doe, Thank you for your insight. I have reread this many times these past two days and they have been very comforting. You are right about the honesty and openness. I think one of the keys is for us to continually talk about it, and not let it fester. Just what I needed to hear...and be reminded of. You are right about that. We both have things we can add to help our children grow. Thank you for the self-confidence booster and for your prayers. I can make this work. I am feeling much better than when I posted this. Sunday was a really hard day...the first time he didn't go to any part of church and we had started being more open about his feelings. I think time will help a little, and lots of prayers. You post really helped me. Thank you.

I didn't know about this site either. Thank you for sharing that. I am going to talk with him about approaching others. Maybe finding some other women in my ward in my same situation would help alot too.

Your post gave me some peace, hope, and good perspective. I am feeling much better today. Thank you for your prayers and thoughtful comments.

Thank you. I didn't know about that forum and have checked it out. I think it will be a good help.

I'm desperately looking for other couples in a marriage where one spouse has turned away from the church and having a huge faith crisis, but you are both trying to keep your marriage together, I love my husband. We have been married for 18 years and have three kids. We were both raised in the church, he served a mission, married in the temple. Recently, my spouse told me he no longer believes in the church, that there are too many things that are inconsistent with it for him to continue believing. He hardly comes to church right now. He doesn't have hatred for the church, just really confused, depressed, and distant from the gospel. We both have talked a lot and are committed to our marriage vows and our family. As this is so new, ward members/bishop are unaware, our kids don't know yet, and our parents/siblings do not either. He is troubled with me continuing to take the kids to church because he really feels we are teaching them a false religion, but so far respects my desire to do so. I feel so alone with no one to talk to in my situation. How do we tell our kids? How can I keep raising them in the church and help them get their own testimonies while their father does not? How can we have a good marriage when we are on such different faith spectrums now? My heart is so heavy. I do not want to end my marriage--he is a good man and wonderful father. I don't want my kids to ever doubt that. He has also told me he doesn't want us to leave and that he loves me...that is one of his biggest fears and why he didn't tell me his feelings for so long. I hope someday his views will again soften for the church, but I know they may never as well. I just know I am not going to abandon our marriage. We really want to make our marriage continue, but don't know how to navigate these uncharted waters. I would really like to hear from other men and women in this situation and what they have done. Thank you for listening.