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What year did they attend? They received their endowments December of 2004

I am so sorry that you have to deal with such a terrible thing as a family. My father went through something very similar (and he has been an extraordinary father because of it). His dad passed away about 11 years ago now, and it's just been recently that he's been able to talk about the things his father used to do to him. He was abused also. My husband's father is dieing so I asked my dad what I could to do help my husband and he told me that all I can do is be there for him, and then he broke down in tears. He explained that his biggest regret is not telling his dad everything that he wanted to say before he died. He didn't get to explain the love he had for him despite the pain he caused, and he didn't get to build that father son relationship. He told me that is his biggest regret in life thus far. All in all, I think your husband will just need you to be very supportive of whatever he decides to do. And, good luck with everything.

My parents feelings about the church and me going through the temple actually have nothing to do with anything that I did, or anything that I know about. After their temple experience they haven't been the same in the church. The other thing I should make clear is that my relationship with my family was damaged a long time ago, and I don't feel like they are shutting me out, they just can't be there with me. Listening to the spirit is extremely important to me and I wouldn't be where I am at today with out the sound voice that I hear, but I just want to be able to make the experience positive for my family. Me waiting is not going to do anyone any good, my dad doesn't have a desire to renew his recommend and my mom isn't showing me any ambition or reason to wait for her to come with me. I feel like this is the right decision, I just need some suggestions on how to include those people who can't be there. Thanks for your reply, it helped me see the other side of the situation.

when I moved to my new home my bishop and I had the same type of feelings towards eachother. He got the impression that I was strong willed and hard headed and I got the impression that he didn't like me nor did he approve of me. As time went on it became a severe problem that was leading to me stay away from ward activities and interview with him. Finally, I decided to talk to him about it and we had an interview where I expressed my feelings and he helped comfort me from my feelings. It was a really great interview, and we shared a prayer of hope and understanding for eachother and things have been great since. He even told me that he was able to improve with his ability as a bishop from the discussion. It was great for us, maybe you could try something similar.

I have been a member of the church my whole life, my family was just inactive. As I grew up I found a sincere desire to be a part of the church, and my parents also went through a stage where they were intently active members. During this time they both received their endowments. That has been three years now. Since then my father has been back to the temple once, and my mother twice. This is where the trouble starts... After moving away for college, I found the man that I wanted to marry. We set our temple date, and excitedly started to plan our wedding. The joy that we had was undescribable. As wedding plans progressed and the wedding got closer, my mother and father began to draw away from me. I was confused as to the reason but didn't want to stir up dirt, so I ignored it. The problem progressively got worse, and it blew. My mom and dad explained to me that if I got married in the temple they would both remove their garments and never go back to church. I was soooo hurt, and more so didn't know what to do. So I approached my fiance and we decided to ask my bishop for help. He guided me towards continuing on with a temple marriage and hoping that my parents wouldn't deny themselves the blessings the garments represent. With a found hope from the bishop I proceeded planning the wedding. My mom and I continuosly had blow ups and finally my sister called and told me that if I went through the temple that she would never talk to me again. She explained that she has worked her whole life to make my parents more comfortable with the church and I was ruining it. Well, I knew that my fiance wasn't going to be happy about not going through the temple so I called off the wedding in hopes that everything would blow over and we could get married shortly after and everyone would be fine. As you can imagine this didn't happen like expected and my husband and I were married civilly last September. Since then my parents and I have rebuilt a relationship, and my siblings and I are still in the process of rebuilding ours. I have been prompted by the spirit on several occasions recently to receive my endowments soon. I have politely pushed them away knowing that it is going to cause some horrific family issues that i have just resolved. I finally went and talked to my bishop regarding the feelings and he agreed that it was time that I take out my endowments. So I approach my mom(who hasn't attended church in some time) and tell her and she says that she will "try" and get a recommend, but that my dad won't even try. One of my sisters is willing to fly to Utah and do it with me, but my other sister who is endowed doesn't have a recommend and I have one sister, two brothers and their spouses who can't be there. How do I make them feel included and loved even though I am doing something that they are not okay with? How do I keep my day special and not worry about the feelings that are being hurt outside of the temple? I have prayed and I feel like this is the move that I am supposed to make. I am receiving my endowments on Saturday, so any advice you have would be greatly appreciated... and the sooner the better. Thanks in advanced for your help