I have been a member of the church my whole life, my family was just inactive. As I grew up I found a sincere desire to be a part of the church, and my parents also went through a stage where they were intently active members. During this time they both received their endowments. That has been three years now. Since then my father has been back to the temple once, and my mother twice. This is where the trouble starts...
After moving away for college, I found the man that I wanted to marry. We set our temple date, and excitedly started to plan our wedding. The joy that we had was undescribable. As wedding plans progressed and the wedding got closer, my mother and father began to draw away from me. I was confused as to the reason but didn't want to stir up dirt, so I ignored it. The problem progressively got worse, and it blew. My mom and dad explained to me that if I got married in the temple they would both remove their garments and never go back to church. I was soooo hurt, and more so didn't know what to do. So I approached my fiance and we decided to ask my bishop for help. He guided me towards continuing on with a temple marriage and hoping that my parents wouldn't deny themselves the blessings the garments represent. With a found hope from the bishop I proceeded planning the wedding. My mom and I continuosly had blow ups and finally my sister called and told me that if I went through the temple that she would never talk to me again. She explained that she has worked her whole life to make my parents more comfortable with the church and I was ruining it. Well, I knew that my fiance wasn't going to be happy about not going through the temple so I called off the wedding in hopes that everything would blow over and we could get married shortly after and everyone would be fine.
As you can imagine this didn't happen like expected and my husband and I were married civilly last September. Since then my parents and I have rebuilt a relationship, and my siblings and I are still in the process of rebuilding ours. I have been prompted by the spirit on several occasions recently to receive my endowments soon. I have politely pushed them away knowing that it is going to cause some horrific family issues that i have just resolved. I finally went and talked to my bishop regarding the feelings and he agreed that it was time that I take out my endowments. So I approach my mom(who hasn't attended church in some time) and tell her and she says that she will "try" and get a recommend, but that my dad won't even try. One of my sisters is willing to fly to Utah and do it with me, but my other sister who is endowed doesn't have a recommend and I have one sister, two brothers and their spouses who can't be there. How do I make them feel included and loved even though I am doing something that they are not okay with? How do I keep my day special and not worry about the feelings that are being hurt outside of the temple? I have prayed and I feel like this is the move that I am supposed to make. I am receiving my endowments on Saturday, so any advice you have would be greatly appreciated... and the sooner the better. Thanks in advanced for your help