This is my first attempt at posting anything on an LDS website... this conversation is interesting. I am twice divorced both times as a result of pornography addiction. Currently I am a student at BYU and for my senior research I am looking at the impact of rampant pornography use among the priesthood brethren on the sisters of the church. The stigma associated with divorce is closely linked I believe... as there has been little or no direction/support offerred to those who are suffering collaterally, specifically spouses and children. When a woman decides to divorce she is often isolated... try being divorced twice! Anyway, if anyone out there has had experience with this topic and feels to reply I would love to hear from you. I'm looking at how your spouse's use affected 1) your relationship 2) your sense of self-worth and desirability and 3) your feelings about the character of your spouse. Further, what support did you receive from your local authorities?
It's a struggle dealing with the stigma of divorce... and puzzling to picture the altenative... in both situations that I was involved in violence or infidelity resulted - I can not believe that the Lord would have either myself or my children remain in that situation... yet my decision to divorce was strongly resisted. Yesterday I talked to someone about working in the temple... I have a recommend and my children are grown... I was told that I needed to be divorced for 5 years before I could be considered for service as an ordinance worker... ironically my first husband who just finished is last bout with his addiction (which has persisted for over 30 years) within the past year received a call to work in the temple when he received permission to return to the temple... I'm puzzled....
