[Humility Sucks!]

Be YE therefore perfect (at your calling and job) -  EVENTUALLY   you've got this.  Lean on the Lord and maybe ask for a PH blessing that u can calm down and absorb as much as possible and learn and contribute what God wants.   

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I am sorry.  This hits a nerve w me.   Probably bc I just went through a divorce after 20+ years and 3 kids bc my husband was shallow.   I am 180 lbs after 7 pregnancies and not the 140lbs I was when we married.   I am happy with who I am, he wasn't.    I was definitely more beautiful than him for the first 10 years of our marriage (he was scrawny ) and the last ten - he was prettier (only on the outside ). I am grateful I got to see how shallow his "eternal" love was.   I do feel like you should be focused on who she is on the inside.   Gaining some weight and letting herself go are two different things. I am sure u look older and maybe a little pudgier.  Having babies is really hard on the body- so are health problems.  I am glad u see the error in your thinking and are trying to reconcile.   Good luck

[Utah school requires girls to say "Yes" to all boys who ask them to dance.]

I don't say yes to all dates now, I wouldn't say yes to dancing with all guys at a dance, I wouldn't want my daughter to.   This isn't to say I don't want her to be a pleasant person.