TeancumFan

I suppose this is a bigger problem to me than I dreamed. But something happened recently that has me in turmoil yet again. A brief background. My marriage was over 4 years after it began. This was a LONG time ago. I had and continue to have strong beliefs that my ex was in an adulterous affair...but no proof other than the circumstances. My sealing was cancelled 3 weeks after application....a record at the time so I feel the Church recognized that too. I moved on with my life, or so I thought. Fast forward 30 years. Out of the blue I get a letter from a bishop telling me my ex wants to be sealed in the Temple to his "new family". The bishop wants information from me about the divorce and its reasons etc. Talk about opening Pandora's box! Finally, and very reluctantly I provided the requested information, actually having to respond twice when the bishop told me my ex was denying everything. This was excruciating for me though not unexpected. I had not really dealt with the infidelity....not for all those years. It caused a crisis in my life....every single aspect of my life....that to some extent continues to this day. The thing that bothers me is after I provided EVERY detail the leader requested which left me emotionally and spiritually shattered, I was told I would not be informed of the outcome. The 1st Presidency could either allow the sealing immediately, allow it, but later, or not allow it. I thought I could be okay with that but 4 years afterward I find the truth is Im not. My ex was a liar and a cheat and even though he isnt fooling God, I have every reason to believe he tried to fool the Church....yet again. Can I do anything about it if he was allowed to be sealed again? No. Will it make a difference in my life? No. But occasionally people bring this up and ask questions and it pours salt in the wound yet again. So I would like to know whether they did or did not go to the temple. It would provide closure of a sort for me. Short of asking my bishop or asking him.....neither which Im ever gonna do....is there a way I can find out if they went to the temple? He lives several hundred miles away and I dont have the means for a PI. Anyone with experience in this area.....Id love to hear from you. PS. Im not looking for a sermon on forgiveness or on the atonement. Ive heard it all, and tried it all. This has been nearly 40 years in the making. Nor can I afford therapy over it even though it might be needed. So please dont waste my time and yours unless you have useful, practical info to add. Thank you.