LewisC

I should have mentioned I am originally from Canada. It is Ice Hokey or nothing for me. Although, I enjoyed Toronto's victory last season 🇨🇦

My 18 year old son went to live with his grandma over 3 years ago. My 14 year old and 11 year old daughters went to live with their grandma within the last week. That is only since they became upset about me remarrying. I think they will come home soon, I would love my 18 year old to but he is an adult now so that is up to him.

Again thank you for the advice it is amazing and I feel very blessed that people have taken time to answer. Perhaps I shouldn't have said that he has lost his testimony, those were the words he said to me at the time. However, I have a few reasons to believe that he may not have lost his testimony. 1) His girlfriend is a member and he told his grandma that he doesn't want to serve a mission but he does want to marry his girlfriend in the temple; 2) He went to general conference with his girlfriend last year, I thought at the time he was only travelling to Utah with her but he actually attended the sessions; 3) I know he sometimes goes to his girlfriend's house to study the gospel with her family; 4) He once told his grandma the reason he doesn't go to church is because he misses his mom the most when he goes there; 5) His views regarding me being sealed to another woman; If I sound like a deluded dad who wants to believe that his son hasn't lost his testimony then please tell me that I am clutching at straws. I agree with you, at the time of his mom's passing he had a lot of anger towards God and he had a lot of questions as you can imagine. I couldn't answer them all or he didn't like the explanations. I think at the very least he wants it to be true that he will be with his mom again.

We never discussed it. How could I ask my wife that? I know my late wife would want me to put the children first and that is something I always tried to do.

My understanding of the situation regarding this life is that my daughters get on well with her and would be accepting of having her in the home. My 18 year old son has chosen not to engage with her, they have crossed paths a few times and he has chosen not to acknowledge her presence. Of course I love my son but he is an adult now and for the last 3 and a bit years has chosen not to live with me. So I haven't looked for his approval in this but of course I would like it.

First of all thank you all for your responses, I really appreciate them. However, I may not have asked the question clearly enough about how I can explain to my children that there is no discrepancy between being sealed to their mother for eternity and being sealed with another woman. My son told me that if I had married his mom not in the temple then I wouldn't be being unfaithful to her but as I made covenants with her for eternity I would now be breaking them. This is very key for me to clear up for my children

Hi I am a member living in South Carolina I have 4 children 2 sons and 2 daughters. My oldest son is a missionary in London England and I am a widower since 2015. I have been a member since I was a child and I have served in many roles in the church but I stepped back when my late wife was unwell and since I haven't served much because trying to look after 4 children on my own is very time consuming. I work in cyber security so if you need any advice then ask me.

Hello, I have 4 children 2 sons who are 19 and 18, and 2 daughters who are 14 and 11. I lost my wife 4 years ago after a long term illness, it was really hard for us as a family. My 18 year old son lost his testimony at that time and we ended up arguing a lot about him coming to church and he ended up moving out to live with his maternal grandmother. I met my fiancée 2 years ago through a mutual friend she is a convert since 2015 and I fell in love with her, in January we decided to get married in the temple. When I told my children they were upset and my 18 year old son he began accusing me of being unfaithful to his mom. He thinks this because he believes that when I was sealed to his mom I promised to love her and be faithful to her for time and eternity and he feels that by me making those promises to someone else that I am not keeping the promises I made to his mom. My daughter who is 14 feels the same way and she said that now she has lost her testimony because of the discrepancy in being able to be sealed to multiple people, it has brought up many questions for her and she has decided to not come to church anymore and she is very upset with me so has also gone to live with her grandma. Yesterday my 11 year old said that she wants to be with her brother and sister so she has also gone to live there and I know she doesn't understand the situation very well too. So my question is how can I explain to my children that I am not being unfaithful to their mom? My oldest son is away on his mission and we spoke about it and he was also not happy but less upset than his siblings. Any advice that you have for me is really welcome about anything in this situation but especially explaining that there isn't a conflict and I can keep the promises to their mom and be with my fiancée. I probably left out details so ask me and I will try to respond and I would love you to pray for me and my family.