mightynancy
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Dont forget the 3 days of darkness that preceeded his birth.
I thought it was a day and a night and a day of light? Wasn't the darkness a sign of his death?
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More like 31 flavors of nerd.
You know it! That's part of the awesome.
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Tee hee - that's my cousin's site. Isn't he 31 flavors of awesomesauce?
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I think I'd start by trying to reduce the tension - have a family chat about all working together to make the home environment nice (physically and emotionally). Your kids are old enough to have valuable input. They may also have emotional injuries from their mother leaving, and they're unconsciously taking it out on your wife - acknowledge that, if it exists, and help them find their way forward.
It's hard to establish authority as a step parent - and maybe shouldn't be tried, LOL. I'd work on the idea of cooperation rather than obedience.
Love and Logic books and workshops are great - they help parents raise kids to be self-sufficient. Also How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen & Listen So Your Kids Will Talk is great. Both of these series are old enough that they'll be available at the library or secondhand (if you don't want to plunk down a bunch of money).
Love and Logic will really dial down the emotional volume. Its focus on giving the kids' problems back to the kids will eventually help them be less selfish (though, with the example of not doing chores it sounds like they're just untrained and unhabituated).
Sometimes my kids will slack on chores when they feel like they need more mothering. A little bit of TLC, and doing something nice for them that they could do themselves, is just the trick. The key for us, though, is the self-sufficiency that makes those gestures meaningful. For example, it's standard operating procedure for you to make a snack for a toddler. But for a teen who *could* do it himself (and usually does), it's a nice treat to have a plate of snacks offered to him.
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I found a suit at JCPenney and added jog shorts for a little more coverage. I show a little cleavage, but I'm okay with that.
My daughter wears long boys trunks and rash guards. She's smart like JudoMinja.
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I don't look at eternal families as vertical lines, where you're in one line or the other. I look at it more like a net, with lines crisscrossing and interconnecting.
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I have told my lippy teen that I'm ready to give him right back to Balaam. That's my only anecdote.
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Apple, sorry for calling you patronizing when you weren't. And I'm willing to amend my assertion that MOST of the power of prayer is internal and not circumstantial...miracles can happen. I have had trials in my life as well, and I don't think that God withheld my wishes because I didn't ask correctly.
In my defense, the original telling of the events linked the DCFS call to you getting your request worded properly. Drawing those things together is problematic in terms of how prayer works. I simply don't think that God dangles things just out of our reach until we say pretty please. I have had trials in my life as well, and I don't think that God withheld my wishes because I didn't ask correctly.
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The people who have lived through these faith promoting stories at one time felt exactly how unixknight has expressed. I know I did in the situation with my grandson and his sister.
I'm sure you mean well, but that's really patronizing.
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My reading comprehension is fine, thanks.
If God got DCFS to intervene (only after Grandma got her attitude right, natch) God would be infringing on the unfit mother's agency. Which makes that explanation problematic.
This makes it sound like God is holding up a stick of candy and singing, "Say pleeeease!" Also problematic (and irreverent, sorry!).
I do believe in the transformative power of prayer - but I think those transformations are internal and not circumstantial.
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There isn't one person in this world who doesn't make mistakes. You're just as good and worthy as everyone else there. Most times the most serious sins are those not even visible.
This.
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So God will, on purpose, leave children in a dangerous situation until one individual learns to pray right?I changed my prayers to "Please get both of those children to somewhere they will be safe" Within days of changing my prayer to include both children and verbally accepting that I might not be the best place for the children, my son got a call from DCFS.
What's the lesson for her/us when she learns to let go, and the child dies?She prayed for him to live, over and over again, and his condition deteriorated. She finally submitted herself to the will of God, she gave up hope that he would live. She accepted losing him, the hardest thing any mother would ever have to do, and she did it. She let go of him.
And that is when he was miraculously healed.
It is ancient history today. She shared this in testimony because she felt another needed to hear it. We ask and hope, but then we have to learn to submit, to let go of everything, to trust God, and let His will be done – however hard letting go is. When we can let go, and follow our Father in Heaven, miracles occur.
My belief is that prayer changes the one doing the praying, but it doesn't necessarily change circumstances. The skeptic in me believes that "if it's God's will" and "with sufficient faith" are great escape clauses. If you pray for something that doesn't happen, either God doesn't want that for you, or you're just asking wrong.
The danger in faith-promoting miracle narratives is that they leave those who don't receive a miracle frustrated, confused, and feeling rejected by God. Maybe they're just doing it wrong.
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LOL!
I taught fire my first year at camp as an adult. My Boy Scout son had a GRAND time teaching me in preparation for my assignment (I'm not a camper usually).
First aid is fun! Plenty of scope for dramatic effects.
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My daughter is too young to go to yw camp, but she will love to try that macroinvertebrate sampling. Thanks, JudoMinja!
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Do we get credit not only for actually being nice, but refraining from being mean? Oh, I hope so.
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I loved these books when I was a kid! Imagine my disappointment when they didn't resonate with my kids, sigh.
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You want to change the law about screening foreigners for violent criminals? Fine then you live in neighborhoods with unscreened foreigners but do not expect anyone else to. You want to change the law about screening foreigners for dangerous communicable disease? Fine you send your children to school with hundreds of unscreened children at risk of having or carrying deadly diseases but don’t expect that you keep your children safe while you put the children of others at danger.
I live by a bunch of unscreened U.S. citizens, and let me tell you, they're no better than many of the illegal immigrants I know (quite the contrary, in fact).
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I recommend trying another version of the Bible, such as the New International Version. We officially use the KJV, but the more-current language in the NIV may make it more engaging for you to read. Of course, that still leaves the issue of the rest of the standard works.
I agree that the Institute manuals could be a good guide.
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I'm sure nobody would be surprised to hear that I have an issue with an individual "presiding" in a marriage. My husband and I view one another as equals and neither presides over the other. As a pair, I suppose you could say we preside over the family.
I can't imagine the Lord being pained that you take the lead in spiritual matters since that is a gift you bring to your marriage and family. Would He want you to just sit around and wait for your laid-back husband to do it? Why not have the person with those gifts and desires do it? Why should that person have to carry a Y chromosome?
If you're already endowed, I don't think the Church would require your husband's permission to get your recommend again.
I don't have any answers about how things work out in the next life. In Sunday School a couple of weeks ago, an ad hoc teacher gave a wonderful lesson on covenants. In part of it, she pointed out that each person makes covenants with God, not with the Bishop, not with the Church, but with God. Keeping those covenants despite what others do (or do not do) brings a peace to one's heart.
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But really it's only offensive to those that are in that category (the illegals).
It offends me, and I'm a U.S.-born anglo.
Let's turn the tables. Say you're at a rodeo in the Bible Belt.
"Hey there, rodeo fans, welcome! How many of you attend Grace Lutheran? And who's here from First Baptist? Are there any of those Mormons in the house? Let's round 'em up and put 'em on that train!"
While I understand that it's not illegal to be Mormon, the comment is mean-spirited. My thoughts on rodeo aside, a family entertainment event isn't where one would expect such jabs.
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. I guess I had just been going by pictures.
This brings to mind the time a primary teacher in our ward pointed out that Jesus was a cute baby, with a painting as his reference.
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I believe it's also the policy (correct me if I'm wrong) that a wife must get permission from her husband to take out her endowments in the temple as well.
if a wife desires baptism into the church, and the husband forbids it, then she is not baptized.
If there is a disagreement (wife wants to convert, but husband doesn't allow/approve), then we follow what the husband's desire is.
Husband wants to convert, but wife wouldn't allow: no problem.
Wife wants to convert, but husband won't allow: problem.
Am I the only one deeply disturbed by this?
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My son is a YM, and I think he's pretty swell! I really enjoy his friends, too.
I think teens in general get a bad rap. When I would share with people that I was over the teen girls in my congregation, I'd get a fair share of rolled eyes or rueful wishes of good luck. I assured them that the kids are great. Adolescence through young adulthood is such a creative time of life, not to mention a fun one! AND the kids are often deeper thinkers than we oldies give them credit for.
In short, I concur!
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Going hungry is one thing, rape/murder is another and completely unrelated. As I said before, I have a concealed-carry permit and not a few firearms. I know how and when to use a weapon. This does not include defending my food from a hungry person.