FairChild
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I was a single mom raising an autistic boy. I eventually went several times to my bishop (after going through the proper channels first) and asked repeatedly about having a home teacher that actually would come to my home. I got a home teacher that has been with me several years now. (he has lost a few companions to death) I always do better when I have active home teachers. What you want is not a trival thing. Keep asking and don't quit. Also right now ask for a blessing of comfort. And most importantly, don't quit. FC
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Maybe some of us don't laugh nearly often as we could because we are busy facing a severe prune shortage in our near future. You know the saying, a prune a day will..... Fill in your own blanks please.
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Keep work at work. To bring Church up there is not appropriate. If you see your boss at Church, smile brightly and ask how he is doing. When you talk to your bishop, he can tell you all that should happen and who would be doing what. I think sometimes we get so afraid, we miss out on the opprotunities we may have otherwised used to enhance our lives.
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Personally? Hmm, I'm a pain weenie. I hate to hurt. And not have enough money to pay all of my bills.
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Become stronger yourself and then, share your strength.
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Welcome Ed. Glad you are back. FC
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One thing you can do is create picture books for your son, simular to scrap booking, but when you are done, you just slide the picture into a page protector. If you get the smooth textrued page protectors, you can use a white board pen that wipes off to write on the page, wipe off the page protector and then use it again and again. I found out that for me, I could write a to do list, a schedule, with words, even using pictures, drawings or photos. I would draw a small box next to each item. If I started on something, color in half the box and when it was finished, colored the whole box in. You can make a list for a whole day or for bedtime or meal time or for getting ready for church. Use as many pages as you want or need. Creating something visual will help your son feel independent and good about himself. I also have used small photo albums and index cards as my page. I could check off as each item was done. Then my book could be wiped down and used all over the next day if I needed it. by using the photo albums or page protectors, you can easily change the book as often as needed. You can also create little booklets about the lessons, gospel, pictures of friends, family, church members, animals and school. Your child could look at his books during Sacrament. I hope what I said helps.
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I'm female, served 5 + years as USN member. At one point in my life, I moved 25 times in 5 years. It's possible, but I think a lot of it boils down to one's personal dedication to the Gospel. If you think about the pioneers that settle Salt Lake, Utah, Idaho and Arizona way back in the late 1800's, when the physical distance was too great to reach others, especially in winter, there often was very little interpersonal fellowship between the members. Yet somehow, despite the problems they had, some of those members thrived in the Gospel, gaining testamonies that far exceeding that of some modern members. Whatever happens, I think it is going become your choice. Many people that have the chance to visit church every Sunday, often don't. Some can't attend as often as they wish, yet have spiritual growth. I wish you great success. FC
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SomeWife, I am so happy to hear that you and your husband are together working to improve your relationship.
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Yes gwen, a man can love an nurture a child as well as a woman. Love, caring and concern can come from either sex. Still, it is hard to grow up without a mom or without a dad.
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Why no job? Perhaps some community service as a way of networking yourself into a job.
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A child doesn't need a mother? Ask any woman that lost her mom at an early age if she felt any pain of growing up as a motherless child. Every child needs and deserves to be nurtured and loved, from the instant of conception beyond the moment of death.
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Glad to meet you and can't wait to look up and listen to new tunes. FC
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Do I get extra funky credit for being so despirate in need of funk-a-facation? Maybe I should just break down and get help. Or go for the cure, whichever is cheaper.
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In some countries you are legally married first (civilly) by the state and then you are allowed to have a religious ceremony. It's a thought. FC
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Could it be possible that he have a helper in Primary? I've seen that happen before.
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My yongest son has Aspergers, my sister has 4 children diagonsoed with various forms of Autism. I think of Aspergers as well as my son's ADHD more as a learning style than a disability. Everyone has a problem with something. Our children's something just happens to have a diagnoses of Aspergers. I believe a big part of it is learning to bloom where you are planted and doing the best you have with whatever resources you got. Glad to meet you. Hope to chat more soon. FairChild
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I twice married non-members. The first ex was ok about me going to church until we got near his family. Then it got to the point where I was physically abused to force me to go to church with him and he prevented me from going to church where I belonged.
I think you need to back off and give him the space he seems to want right now. Remember, you can share your testamony, but you can't give another person their testamony.
Go do some things just for yourself. Keep busy. Take really good care of yourself. God will provide the most amazing companion for you when the time is right. Use the time you have now to prepare yourself for then.
This whole situation may hurt, but you will survive and be ok. You are amazing. Don't give up what is valuable to you for another person.
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Yes, I see it as gambling. I think UrbanFool gave good advice.
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Brother and Sister Smith, Thank you so much for your service. I'm so glad you are here to share and chat with us. FairChild
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Welcome to the site. There are some wonderful people here. Please ask if you need some help. FairChild
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Write anyway. Even if it is never published, it will help you hone your skills so that if one day you do get published, you will have done a great job using your polished writing skills.
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Getting lost in service can help. Serve others as well as providing good service for yourself. Eating healthy, sleeping as you should (getting enough, but not too much), exercise and just taking really good care of yourself. Also this is a time to let yourself have indulges that you normally wouldn't have. Go into a new (to you) restaurant and get a beverage, dessert or small item off of the menu, go to the park or walk in a different park that you might normally go to. Get some new hand lotion at the dollar store and enjoy the frangrance and the way your skin feels as you rub it in. While you are there, go look at the fun greeting cards. Slowly eat a really good piece of candy and let the flavor of it roll over your tounge. Take someone you wouldn't normally share time with and share these things with them. Spend extra time with your children. They are probably hurting too. I wish your friend the best.
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If he has time to date that must also mean he has money to date as well. Tell him what needs to be done and ask him how he could accomplish it. Offer the choice of doing yard work or the choice of paying for having it done. I wish you great blessings as you work with your family to do those things you need to do to have a loving and healthy (did not use the word happy here, but hope it comes with the package).
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