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latterdaymom posted a topic in Advice BoardMy daughter recently told us she doesn't want to be "mormon" anymore and doesn't want to go to church. She has had a rough year dealing with depression and self harm. We've also had some big trials in our family (husband lost his job and is still unemployed; lost a child in an accident 2 years ago). I know those things have had a big impact on her. We noticed that something was "off" around age 11, and we took her in for therapy. She's been going on and off since then. There is a family history of mental disorders in our extended family so it doesn't surprise me what's happening here. She's also on medication but we are still tweaking with it. This summer the doc added lithium to help her with self harm but instead of calming her down it made her more irritable and aggressive. She feels like the church makes rules of what we "can and can't do" which really aggravates her ("It's dumb we can't date before 16 and drink coffee, and shouldn't wear short shorts and tank tops" etc.) She's also a strong willed child and doesn't like to be "controlled", which doesn't help her complicated situation. We think the combination of meds gave her the "push" to decide she was done with church. She thinks no one likes her in YW...literally. She has this idea in her head that they talk about her behind her back and don't want to be her friend, which is completely false. She is a beautiful girl, but something has convinced her she's just trash. I feel so helpless, and don't know what to do for her. For now I am focusing on just uplifting her and loving her. I am more concerned about getting her stable mentally before her spirituality, but it is in the back of my mind and I am concerned. She hasn't attended church in a month. Now I know there will be a few of you who will say, "she's messing with you...you just need to put your foot down and tell her to snap out if it". Or, "just throw her in the car and make her go...She is a child and doesn't have a choice". People these things do not work...I know personally and if you know the plan of salvation, you know that "forcing" people to do things is Satan's plan. So please...if you think your judgmental remarks are going to fix this, then take it somewhere else because you aren't helping. So with that said...I need some real advice.... Has anyone else had a teenager who went through this and came back or changed their mind/attitude because you did something different to encourage them to come back? What can I do as a parent to help her? Thanks for your input. Concerned mom
By Satan when it comes to the law of chastity. I've seen a lot of "how do I stop masturbating" threads and 90% of the people I've seen ask these question of help are under 20. Why are so many of them teenagers. Is there a reason Satan well seems to have a very direct focus on teenagers and wanting them to break the law of chastity. I mean sure he wants everyone to break the law of chastity. But teenagers look like they receive hardest blows from the adversary at such a young age of still trying to grow and develop and I wonder why? I mean it just makes me so sad that someone as young as 13 can't stop masturbating because Satan makes her feel depressed and miserable; and she even prayed to God asking him to take her life. And she's 13 for crying out loud. There was another case of a 17 year old girl who went through rape and through the adversary believes that she is nothing but trash to God so she keeps masturbating and wishes she would die; but she stays alive because she has hope she was meant for more. And she is meant for more And it makes me feel so sad; and makes me feel absolutely horrible that these people have to go through rape, depression, family troubles, teenage drama; and now the adversary wants to add more to their trouble. They're so young I get so mad I often find myself thinking "Satan attack me as much as you like if attacking me with 10 times the force means that you'll leave them in peace then that's okay" Of course I only find myself thinking that because of how much compassion I have for how brave and strong they are; and how much they're trying their best to break their habit or not break the law of chastity despite their troubles. I admire them so much I sometimes wish I could just take their pain away and throw it onto myself.