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So my husband and I just moved into a new ward a few weeks ago and we're expecting a baby in two months. We've been dealing with a faith crisis of my husbands for pretty much the entire year, and while he's back on board with most of the doctrine, he still has a lot of issues with the way things are done in the church and with the "Mormon culture." Anyway, last night the elders quorum pres asked if he could stop by to talk to my husband about a calling at 9pm. So my husband was on the defensive before he even came over because, 1. My husband likes to keep to himself and doesn't want a calling, 2. He was annoyed at how late the eqp wanted to come over (eating into both our and his family time), and 3. He struggles with elders quorum already and doesn't want to be more involved. The eqp was a little pushy about the calling (home teaching supervisor), and while he listened to my husbands confession that he's never had a good home teaching experience and doesn't see the point of it, he tried to remind my husband that maybe this might be an opportunity to change his perspective on home teaching ( which really rubbed my husband the wrong way ). The eqp was really nice and tried to be really encouraging but it came across as kinda pushy ... My husband eventually accepted, but grudgingly. After the eqp left he unloaded all of his annoyances and issues with home teaching and how callings are given and how much time is unnecessarily taken away from family time on me, which I understand given the position he's in faith-wise and his past experiences. But I think he's overreacting because he doesn't want to make more of an effort (its really not that in depth of a calling anyway) I know that my husbands attitude could use some help, but I don't know how to encourage him not to be offended or annoyed at all these things that stem from his own past issues and not from someone trying to offend. Any help or encouragement would be really appreciated. I'm just really nervous that if he's pushed too hard in any of this stuff that he'll just lose the spiritual ground we've been working towards the past year (he's really headstrong). But I also think that if he continues to not participate that we'll lose ground as well ..