losing it

[hope0711]

Instead of sleeping since I have to work early (on Sunday. Again.) my mind is trying to figure out what to do next. My sweetheart of 17 years is bi-polar. We recently found out that our 16 year old has slept with the guy she wasn't allowed to date. DH isn't handling the stress well. My mom has moved in with us since my sister she was living is going thru a nasty divorce. DH and I are stressed over our jobs as several people there have been laid off. Add to that our basement flooded and caused 6 Gs of damage. No insurance. I know that God loves me. I know that He cares about my life. What i don't know is what do I do next? I'm responsible for my mom (darling, old blind) DH (bi-polar, off his meds) 3 kids whom I love dearly, and me. None of this is new. Others have had these problems and come thru them valiently. I feel struck dumb, immobile, spiritually deaf. Believe me. Being physically deaf is SO much easier to deal with.

[applepansy]

I doubt you're spiritually deaf. . .but maybe this is one of those times when Christ is carrying you. Just deal with one day or even one moment at a time. Pray continually, read the scriptures and include your family as much as possible in prayers and scripture reading. Call the temple closest to you and ask them to put your name on the prayer roll. Ask for a blessing.

You'll be in my prayers,

applepansy

[RachelleDrew]

Take one thing at a time. It does you no good to worry about everything all at once.

First things first, take your daughter to get tested for STD's and pregnancy. I don't care if she's on Birth Control and he wore a condom, kids lie and condoms break. Get her tested ASAP. Then sit down with her and have an open, frank conversation with her. Find out why she felt she had to lie in the first place.

How long will your family be staying with you? Is there any way you could set a date for them to move out of the house? It doesn't have to be soon, but perhaps having a date will give you some peace of mind.

As for your jobs, the best thing you can do is prepare. Pay your bills ahead of time, and get some money and food stored away. Start the scrimping and saving now, not after you've lost your jobs.

Im sorry you are stressed out. The best way to deal with stress is to prioritize then handle things one at a time.

[Guest missingsomething]

If you were spiritually deaf you wouldnt be here searching out support and an answer. It is incredible how much we sometimes must bear. I can not begin to tell you I understand how you feel...but I have had these same problems just on a smaller scale. For you to feel shaken, numb, unable to breath - is normal. You can NOT beat yourself up for feeling this. Because we go through some really tough things -the Savior came to experience these so that he could atone justly. Your loving savior is there for you. He has personally.... personally... experienced this with you and even if none of us "get it"... He does get it - completely. Pour your heart out to Him. He is your only chance dear of making this without breaking. Put your family's name in the temple. KEEP it there.

Then take action - contact agencies to help with your mom -(there is free help out there thru things like catholic services, centers for the blind, agency for the aging). Then get help for your husband - if he isnt taking his meds, contact the docs directly & find out what can be done. As for your daughter - I will take a LOT of critiscm for this, but talk to her.... help her understand what you are going through... let her know that you do not have the time to babysit her.... but pray about telling her that if she is going to be sexually active to be protected (last thing you need is a teenage daughter who is HIV positive or gets some other STD... not to mention pregnancy). And then... go to the church to find a counselor through M services.

Its tough... its hard... and I feel for you - but your Savior will help you. it may not be quick - but it will be lasting. Read matthew chapt 11 - verses 28-30... Read D&C 103 and read 1cor 10. Hang in there!

[john doe]

Make an appointment with your bishop NOW. There is help available to those who are in need.

[hope0711]

I took DD down for a pregnancy test. Even if they used birth control, women in my family get pregnant on birth control. (Me, 6 times, 1 sis had 4 boys in 5 years...)My mom will probably be with us until the end. I found out we are at the line for qualifying for state medical for DH but I was told that it wasn't enough under the line. It will be ok. I believe food storage and we have always been frugal. something great is bound to happen sooner than later. Thanks guys. It isn't smooth sailing but I'm done bawling and now want to get a handle on things.