Kennon Posted January 28, 2011 Report Posted January 28, 2011 Well as for background:I've been a member all my life; born into the covenant. I've grown up strong in the church, and have been as faithful as I could, until a few years ago.Pornography and masturbastion has gotten the best of me. I've talked with my bishop several times about the issue: upfront, no facts left out. I've been wanting to resolve this problem almost right after it started. I've had a counselor being involved, a workbook to help overcome the problem, but both of those seem to be off and on. I've talked with my parents, though my dad is very hard to cope with sometimes. He's one of those guys that have a 'just get it done' mentality to him with problems. Don't get me wrong; I love him to death and he's very successful with his career, but I don't feel he understands completely about the addiction.The main problem I've been having is putting and KEEPING those things in action. I've tried and haven't stopped trying to keep them going; seeing the counselor, talking with the bishop regularly, reading my scriptures, etc; but I just can't keep them going. I've removed all availability to pornography in my house, and such, and it still finds its way through to me it feels like.Any suggestions as to how to balance it? I want to resolve it. Quote
Backroads Posted January 28, 2011 Report Posted January 28, 2011 Is the pornography your trigger, or does something else make you look at the pornography such as boredom, stress, etc? Quote
Kennon Posted January 28, 2011 Author Report Posted January 28, 2011 Its a trigger most of the time, though boredom and stress have been a factor in it in the past. Quote
jackmormon Posted February 4, 2011 Report Posted February 4, 2011 I'm not exactly sure what your question is, but here are a couple thoughts that might help. First of all, don't be so hard on yourself. You are undoubtedly going through a vicious cycle of repentance/wrongdoing, in which you are good for a while, then bad, with each peak of the cycle becoming more extreme. Learn to not focus on what has happened in your past, don't worry about tomorrow, just try to make it today. Set realistic goals for achievement and write them down. Don't make it one big goal, rather make it a bunch of small achievable goals that you can cross off as you go along. It's amazing how motivational a bunch of check marks can be even if they were for minor accomplishments. Lastly and seemingly unrelated, make sure you are living the Word of Wisdom to the fullest extent, I'm not talking about smoking, drinking, etc., but healthy living. Eat a balanced diet, work hard, and get enough exercise. It is amazing what this will do for your feelings of self worth, and when you feel like you are worth more to yourself you will be more motivated to take better care of yourself. Good luck, it's not an easy road you walk but you can and will get there. Quote
Backroads Posted February 4, 2011 Report Posted February 4, 2011 Its a trigger most of the time, though boredom and stress have been a factor in it in the past.Is there anyone trustworthy you can bug about keeping you from accessing pornography? Quote
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