taralynnsing Posted June 24, 2011 Report Posted June 24, 2011 Your responses to my post have been so helpful. Whenever I'm at the computer I check for new replies and I have been so comforted especially by the support from other divorced or betrayed women. I am meeting with a lawyer and making other preparations like thinking about getting work and looking for a local handy-man to help me with the house. I feel good about my decision to start this process and then keep listenning to the spirit. I have felt better every time I remind myself that this is just the way it is. I have to train myself to stop wondering what I could do to correct things, because I have tried everything over and over again and my efforts have been wasted and have turned the transition into a slow and painful death. I just try to keep my focus on the future. Quote
honestabe Posted June 24, 2011 Report Posted June 24, 2011 I'm glad that you have made progress with your situation. Having said that I just wanted to point out that you will probably have days (if not hours) that your emotions are all over the map...second guessing etc. I really can't say this enough...I think getting yourself a PROFESSIONAL counsellor to work through this transition would be very very beneficial for yourself. Peoples opinions/advice that are given on this site (except mine of course lol) do not and should not replace speaking with a professional about your choices and moving forward at the end of the day it is you that needs to be ok with your decision(s) in life. I think that people that are in relationships/marriages that have had infedility in them tend to get manipulated(ABUSED) while in them & when they leave them by the other person and it helps to have a professional to speak with to keep your mind straight. I firmly believe that this is why there are a lot of people that suffer from depression/physc wards throughout ordeals like these. It is not going to be easy but you need to tell yourself (self talk) that your deserve to have contentment & treated right!!!! because guess what you do and you owe it to yourself & everyone that cares about you. Good luck & stay strong Quote
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