Help Non-lds With Lds Neighbor

[Guest mcr5298]

I need some help with a LDS neighbor. I am Roman Catholic and her family is LDS.

We have our problems, but we get along mostly as our children are the same ages and play together several times a week.

Last year I had my sons birthday party on a saturday knowing her feeling towards Sundays.

This year we could only have it on a Sunday and we knew they would mostly likely decline, which they did.

But we saw them at a neighborhood block party the day before and they didn't even mention anything to our son or wish him a Happy Birthday.

Although rude, I let it go.

When taking a walk to the park several weeks ago on a Sunday, we walked past our neighbors and they didn't even look up to say hi.

Tonight was the last straw, Sunday again. I was outside with my daughter pushing her on a swing and our neighbor stepped outside for a minute. My daughter said hi and began to ask her some questions, and she couldn't be bothered and turned and went back into the house.

Her husband is moslty a recluse and rarely is outside. When I see him driving home from work down the street, he can't be bothered. I am not looking to be his best friend, but wondering why he is so unfriendly.

Is it just because we are not Mormon or is he just not a friendly person.

I am begining to think that her attitude is not LDS at all and she is just a snot. She does not think twice about dropping her kids off durning the week at my house so she can run errands.

Please help me understand my LDS neighbor. I want it to work out.

Is she taking her Sabbath rituals a little extreme or is this mainstream for Mormons.

Thanks.

[orrinjelo]

I need some help with a LDS neighbor. I am Roman Catholic and her family is LDS.

We have our problems, but we get along mostly as our children are the same ages and play together several times a week.

Last year I had my sons birthday party on a saturday knowing her feeling towards Sundays.

This year we could only have it on a Sunday and we knew they would mostly likely decline, which they did.

But we saw them at a neighborhood block party the day before and they didn't even mention anything to our son or wish him a Happy Birthday.

Although rude, I let it go.

When taking a walk to the park several weeks ago on a Sunday, we walked past our neighbors and they didn't even look up to say hi.

Tonight was the last straw, Sunday again. I was outside with my daughter pushing her on a swing and our neighbor stepped outside for a minute. My daughter said hi and began to ask her some questions, and she couldn't be bothered and turned and went back into the house.

Her husband is moslty a recluse and rarely is outside. When I see him driving home from work down the street, he can't be bothered. I am not looking to be his best friend, but wondering why he is so unfriendly.

Is it just because we are not Mormon or is he just not a friendly person.

I am begining to think that her attitude is not LDS at all and she is just a snot. She does not think twice about dropping her kids off durning the week at my house so she can run errands.

Please help me understand my LDS neighbor. I want it to work out.

Is she taking her Sabbath rituals a little extreme or is this mainstream for Mormons.

Thanks.

Compared to me, it's kinda extreme. I can say thankfully that it varies on areas and people. I know some people like this--(ah, the horror! Like there was a family that welcomed a foreign exchange student and really compelled them to conform to their way of living--Sabbath rules and all *rolls eyes*). Yeah, some LDS are snots, some are really nice. I suppose it is that way in most other churches--a whole spectrum and degrees of followers. But it's nice to see you are at least open enough to not accept one family's actions as the cookie cutter for the whole (the Church).

I'm sorry that your neighbors are like that--then again, they might not realize they're doing that (it is easy enough to be caught up in life that you forget about the other things--every thing becomes too habitual). It's not easy either to judge this situation however, seeing I might not know the whole story or the other side of the coin.

But hey, you can show them how they should act, right? Remember the mote and the beam parable.

[StrawberryFields]

I am sorry to hear of the way you are being treated my this neighbor of your which is a member of the same church I attend.

If there is one thing that I can't stand it's a self righteous Mormon. Being a member of the Mormon church I have been treated much the same way as you describe by people who think they are better then my family is. I just want you to know that this is NOT what we are taught in our church. We are taught to be loving and kind and not to judge others. It is my opinion that your neighbor is more in the wrong for the way she is treating you then sending her child to your home on Sunday.

[Guest mcr5298]

I am sorry to hear of the way you are being treated my this neighbor of your which is a member of the same church I attend.

If there is one thing that I can't stand it's a self righteous Mormon. Being a member of the Mormon church I have been treated much the same way as you describe by people who think they are better then my family is. I just want you to know that this is NOT what we are taught in our church. We are taught to be loving and kind and not to judge others. It is my opinion that your neighbor is more in the wrong for the way she is treating you then sending her child to your home on Sunday.

She doesn't send her child over on Sunday. She ignores us on Sunday and drops her child off on Monday.

We are trying to get along with this neighbor. We are just trying to find out what makes her tick.

Trying to understand if this is typical behaviour for Mormons on Sunday.

[StrawberryFields]

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I am sorry to hear of the way you are being treated my this neighbor of your which is a member of the same church I attend.

If there is one thing that I can't stand it's a self righteous Mormon. Being a member of the Mormon church I have been treated much the same way as you describe by people who think they are better then my family is. I just want you to know that this is NOT what we are taught in our church. We are taught to be loving and kind and not to judge others. It is my opinion that your neighbor is more in the wrong for the way she is treating you then sending her child to your home on Sunday.

She doesn't send her child over on Sunday. She ignores us on Sunday and drops her child off on Monday.

We are trying to get along with this neighbor. We are just trying to find out what makes her tick.

Trying to understand if this is typical behaviour for Mormons on Sunday.

What I didn't make clear is that it is my opinion that the way she is now treating you is a greater sin than sending her child over on Sunday to your childs birthday party IMHO.

In answer to your question is this behavior typical of Mormons to snob people who they feel don't measure up.... YES it is typical for some Mormons but NOT all. I have also been treated they way you describe and I am a long time member of the LDS Church.

[Guest mcr5298]

For those still reading. All input is helpful.

Please feel free to reply. If I am being way off base, please let me know.

What I didn't make clear is that it is my opinion that the way she is now treating you is a greater sin than sending her child over on Sunday to your childs birthday party IMHO.

In answer to your question is this behavior typical of Mormons to snob people who they feel don't measure up.... YES it is typical for some Mormons but NOT all. I have also been treated they way you describe and I am a long time member of the LDS Church.

Please clarify when you say that you have been treated the same way. By other LDS or your Non-LDS neighbors?

To all the LDS on this forum reading this post.

Please accept this post with all respect. I do NOT feel this way of all LDS.

I have even in the past made arrangements for Birthday parties on Saturdays so they can attend.

[vinny15]

Im not like that on sundays. I used to play with the kids outside on sundays. I didnt see the big deal nor do I see it now.

Thats odd. It really isnt typical of mormons to do that on sunday. If you go to an lds church we are always happy and speaking to eachother and fellowshipping.

Shes just a snob. lol

[StrawberryFields]

For those still reading. All input is helpful.

Please feel free to reply. If I am being way off base, please let me know.

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What I didn't make clear is that it is my opinion that the way she is now treating you is a greater sin than sending her child over on Sunday to your childs birthday party IMHO.

In answer to your question is this behavior typical of Mormons to snob people who they feel don't measure up.... YES it is typical for some Mormons but NOT all. I have also been treated they way you describe and I am a long time member of the LDS Church.

Please clarify when you say that you have been treated the same way. By other LDS or your Non-LDS neighbors?

By other LDS Members.

[Guest Username-Removed]

Here in our ward we all live in the same apartment complex, so, our entire ward pretty much knows what everyone else is doing. Once in a while you hear a member family out at the basketball hoop shooting free throws on Sunday. And, on one occasion I joined a family doing that. It was thier last Sunday here, and they were friends.

As a child growing up, my best friend's family were members, and I did spend a lot of time at his house. I usually respected thier traditions, because it was thier house! A lot of study, journal writing and rest on Sundays which I learned to love.

Today, my habits are similar. Although I also spend time during the week studying.

My advice to you is to recognize that some people are just a bit odd. Im sorry it has affected your family. I suppose if people want to live that way on Sunday, then its up to them. Perhaps they just realized they had their own issues with keeping the Sunday holy, and the timing with you was bad. Most people dont try and offend, but they do sometimes!

Its nice to see that you cared enough about your family to come here and ask! Welcome!

[Gabelma]

I certainly wouldn't ignore my neighbours on a Sunday - and I let my daughter play out if she wants, but wouldn't attend a birthday party myself. I don't know it sounds weird it doesn't take much to say hi to someone.

Charley

[Dror]

It's possible that they have problems that have nothing to do with their religion. Maybe they have family problems, health problems, or something we don't know about. Or, the lady may just be a snot, and the husband a recluse! Just like Catholics or people of any other faith, you'll find unfriendly Latter-day Saints and you'll also find friendly ones.

As far as Sabbath-day activities go, opinions vary WIDELY among Mormons! Personally, I would have no problem going to a birthday party on a Sunday (in fact, I did so a few months ago). You'll find LOTS of LDS men who will watch the Super Bowl on Sunday and even mention it in Church. How a birthday party is any worse, I can't imagine.

I'm sorry your neighbors are so unfriendly. Even though I don't have kids myself, I've heard it said that if you treat people's kids nicely, the parents will sometimes warm up to you, too. Good luck!

Dror