Carita

Well said. There are many signs that need to still happen and why do we hear the same things and are asked to do the same things every conference? Because we are not yet doing them and living as we should. Someone, not a member of our church and who didn't think our prophet is a real prophet, asked me once:" So, tell me one thing your prophet has said we haven't heard yet. That we don't already know?" Well, I wrote back :"A Proclamation To the World" and if that is not good enough.. why would our Heavenly Father give us new things when we are not even doing the ones He has already asked us to do?" I think he was expecting something more sensational. I sometimes worry about my children and their future. Then I feel calm and comforted when I remember that we have been promised we will be OK if we live the gospel faithfully. It might not be easy and we might have to go through some hard times but we will be OK at the end..

Here is something McConkie wrote:" At the time appointed by the Father, the Son of Man will come in the clouds of heaven. It is an unknown day in the beginning of the seventh thousand years of the earth's temporal continuance. War, such as has not been known from the beginning of time is in process. All nations are assembled at Armageddon. All things are in commotion . Never has there been such a day as this. The newspapers of the world, as well as radio and television, speak only of war and calamity adn the dread that hangs like a millstone around every neck.... And the signs in heaven above are like nothing man has ever seen. Blood in everywhere; fire and vapors and smoke fill teh atmospheric heavens. No man has seen a rainbow this year.... And above all are the vexing words of those Mormon Elders! They are everywhere preaching their strange doctrine, saying that the coming of the Lord is near, and that unless men repent and believe the gospel they will be destroyed by the brightness of his coming. In this setting, as these and ten thousand like things are in progress, suddenly, quickly, as from the midst of eternity, He comes! Fire burns before him; tempests spread destruction; the earth trembles and reels to and fro as a drunken man. Every corruptible thing is consumed. He sets his foot on the Mount called Olivet; it cleaves in twain. The Lord has returned and the great millennium is here! The year of his redeemed has arrived! When the Lord comes in his glory, in flaming fire; that fire will both cleance the vineyard and burn the earth. In the day, so intence shall be the heat and so universal the burning , the very elements of which this earth is composed shall melt. The mountains , high and glorious and made of solid rock , shall melt like wax. They shall be dissolved. All things shall burn with fervent heat. And out of it all shall come new heavens and a new earth whereon dwelleth righteousness. ..." .... well I hope I can see good dreams..got to go to bed...

Our couch started looking old and kind of sagging so my husband took the legs off and made a little higher frame under it so we could not just sit more comfortably since we are tall people but..we put lots of food storage under it. The couch is easy to slide off the base to take some food out. We stored some canned food and pasta. Sugar and flour in their original bags and put those in grocery plastic bags. It is amazing how much you can actually fit under that couch. I also wished for a small hutch for my birhtday that we squeezed in the dining area. I filled it with food. Remember, we are asked to have at least two week supply but up to a year if possible. A year is our goal but anything between two weeks and a year is good. Your are doing the right thing and the best you can. That is all your are asked to do.

Just couple of thoughts here. This discussion reminds me of how our Heavenly Father sets an example of parenting. It is often said that our Heavenly Father is a Fourth Watch God. A New Testament Day was divided into twelve hours, beginning at six in the morning. The third hour would be nine o'clock, the sixth hour would be noon, and the eleventh hour, though we visualize it as being just before midnight, actually was five o'clock in the evening. The night was divided into four watches. The first watch was from six in the evening until nine at night. The second watch was nine until midnight, the third watch from midnight until three in the morning and the fourth watch from three in the morning until six, about sunrise. To make this short.... our Heavenly Father watches us and knows what we need to learn and the lets us learn, even if it is difficult. He does not rush to make things easy for us or to do things for us. He watches and lets us learn and steps in only in the fourth (last) watch. After we have tried our all. He lets us know He loves us and He is there but He wants us to try ourselves first. There are some exceptions but that is an other story. I could not carry my children all the time when they were little. They were big babies and I have chronic pain in my neck. But they got to sit on my lap a lot. They got lots of hugs and kisses. We would play together and read together and walk together and talk about everything. If I needed work done, I would tell them that if they would nicely play by them selves just a little while so I can get my work done I would then take a break just for them and we can do something together for awhile. That way they learned to mind others too and work for everyones good. To be a team. Sometimes they were able to help me with what I was doing. When they were about two or three I would let them make their own peanut butter sandwiches etc. I always believed that if I got sick, they could at least make sandwiches for them selves so I could get a little more rest. I had four little children 7 and under and very little help. My husband worked nights and slept during the day when he wasn't in school. I nursed my oldest one until he was one. The others less. I was tired. They had their own beds. They are now 23, 22, 19 and 16 and we are close and we have a good relationship. I get hugs and kisses and we laugh and have fun together. They know they are important to me and I will always listen to them and help them but they also respect my time. I think the most important thing is to use your instincts, to spend time. To talk and play and learn together and to let them explore and learn. Have fun together. Show love. Tell you love. As a mother you will have times when you feel quilt about not being the mom you would like to be. We are all humans and learning. Life throws some sticks in the wheels. But do not let that discourage you or worry. Relax. If you love your children. Follow our Saviors example. Read how our Heavenly Father teaches His children. If you let your children see how you love and live the gospel. Read the scriptures and pray, it will all be well at the end. Always talk with your children watch them and keep them close enough to know what goes on. Give them room to grow independent and to learn but only as much as they need or can handle for their age. If you learn to know your child and let the Holy Spirit guide, you will know when something is not right and what is right for them.

First you must both want to restore your marriage. Set going to the temple together as a goal. Then with prayer and Heavenly Father's help go forward step at a time. You must remember the love you had for each other when you were married an hold on to it and to be committed to it what ever hard times you have to go through. Your road will be long and not easy but worth it. The one who was unfaithful must work hard to build the trust back. It can only happen by letting your spouse know where you are and when you will come back. Who is there to prove you were where you said you would be. Do not go alone if possible. Go with someone your spouse trusts. In short. You have to give report and prove to be trustworthy. Ask for forgiveness and be worthy of it. Give extra time and show extra care and love for each other. The one who's spouse was unfaithful has a lot of pain to deal with. Speak of your pain to your spouse and ask for understanding and patience if it takes time for you to learn to trust but assure that you will work on it. Ask for forgiveness on your part if there is something that might have helped this weak moment to happen. Remember who the person was you married and why. Why did you love him/her. Recommit yourself. Dig your feet deep so you can stand what ever winds will blow and decide your marriage and your family will get through it and you will love each other through it all. Forgiveness means that you will work to heal and you will not use what your spouse did against him/her in the future if you have disagreements. You will not bring it up. It is gone. Even if you will sometimes still feel some pain. That is love. You will allow your spouse to work through it and to get it behind. This is how time can heal. This is also best to keep between you two and your Bishop and who ever is part of the repentance process. I know it might be hard but I really feel it is important not to speak with your friends about it. Maybe only one trusted one. Or family if you feel you must. The less people know the more room and peace your marriage has to heal. If you have children of ever will have children, leave them out of it. One last important thing to remember. When we came on this earth we came here promising our Father we would work to make it back to our Heavenly Father. That was our goal. When we get married we make promises to love and support each other. In a marriage we are not here to just get ourselves back to our Father but "us". Our spouse and our family. When one is weak may the other be strong and loyal. If your spouse would fall out of a boat, you would do all you can to pull him/ her back? It takes work and love from both. Good luck. I know you can do it.