Jenamarie

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  1. They're doing the same thing here, and explicitly said that it was to keep the missionaries' teaching abilities sharp when there weren't enough investigators to teach.

    It also means the hubs and I don't need to come up with our own FHE lesson. :lol:

  2. Someone should notify my stake president, who directly advised all of the bishops in our stake that no one should hold a single calling for more than three years.

    :facepalm:

    My husband was ward financial clerk in our old ward for 9 years under 3 bishops. He was only released because the new EQ pres. wanted him in his presidency. That lasted 3 months until we moved. :lol:

  3. Worship services? I haven't seen anyone post that this was brought up in Sacrament Meeting. Perhaps I missed that.

    I would interrupting Sunday School and RS/Priesthood for anything other than a cursory announcement as being "interrupting worship services". I come to Gospel Doctrine to learn about gospel doctrine, not to receive a sales pitch. (which is what it felt like in my old ward, the way it was handled)

  4. Truthfully, I've never heard anything about Friends of Scouting when at church. It's only ever been brought up at the Courts of Honor. In the ward I grew up in, Courts of Honor and Young Women in Excellence were full-ward affairs, so I guess it was kind of the same thing, but our worship services at least weren't being interrupted with this kind of stuff.

    Lucky you. Thankfully my new ward seems to be pretty mum about Scouting unless you're directly involved in it, but in my old ward it was like a sales pitch every Sunday until they'd met their goal. Announcements in all meetings, 5th Sundays dedicated to it, and even being approached in the hall by the ward Scout leader to ask if you'd submitted your donation yet (with the assumption that, of course, you were going to donate!)

    I think the most galling was when I was in the YW's presidency, and our girls had just been told that we would no longer be allowed to do any type of fundraisers for Girls Camp (a few years later that rule was thankfully dropped), and it was going to be all on them and their parents to get them there that year, and then here comes in Mr. Scout Master announcing to us leaders that they were x% away from reaching their goal for fundraising for Scouts, and be sure to donate for the boys!

    I understand why some people don't donate. :P

  5. I guess I'll be the minority opinion. Why would I even need to share my friend's secrets with my husband? Assuming it's nothing that involves him or our family, why would he need to know? He has every right to know MY secrets, but why should he (or I) expect to know other's secrets, just because they're the spouse of a friend?

  6. When I was there it was playing in one of the courtyard areas. The song was over before I'd moved through much of the mall, so I can't say for sure if it was playing throughout the mall, but I can say for sure it wasn't coming from any one particular store.

    And as far as giving money to the poor not lifting them up: one of the basics I've learned about helping those in need is that their basic needs (food, clothing, shelter) have to be met FIRST, before anything else is of much use. The jobs that the construction might bring are going to require people who apply to provide an address, perhaps come to an interview in interview-appropriate clothing, etc. And certainly they wouldn't do very well in an interview if they haven't eaten in a while.

    ETA: And I'm not saying let's start handing out checks to every poor person we see, but I'm having trouble seeing how those at the very "bottom of the barrel" of poverty will be helped much by a multi-million dollar building venture.

  7. My husband has sick days and personal days he can use when he needs time off from work. I don't see how being a housewife should be any different. Of course it can be taken to an extreme, but so can work (workaholic). So long as both partners are okay with the balance they've struck, I don't see an issue with letting the house stuff slide for a bit, or asking for additional assistance.

  8. *sigh* This makes me so uncomfortable. :( WHY is so much money being put into building projects? Why not build a hospital, or some homeless shelters? Yes, I KNOW the church also does humanitarian stuff too, but it seems like a WHOLE lot more $$ is going into NON-humanitarian stuff, and I don't care if it's my tithing money or not, I'd much rather see more $$ going into helping the poor and needy, and the poor and needy don't need shiny new high-rises.

    Ever since I walked through the new mall in Salt Lake with "Your Sex Takes Me to Paradise" blaring over the sound system, the business side of the church has made me feel increasingly uncomfortable.

  9. Hi Vort. I hope you're doing well. :)

    As an adult, infant boys will not receive the benefits associated with circumcision.

    Hyperbolic nonsense.

    Again, nonsense and completely contrary to medical evidence. Evidence shows that circumcision is better for all of society.

    The argument, "Why fix if it isn't broken" is hypocritical. We provide vaccines to our children even though they have nothing wrong with them in order to prevent issues. It is better to prevent an issue than to cure it. Circumcision provides this type of protection.

    There are a multitude of reasons why circumcision should be done to all infant boys. The benefits far outweigh the risks.

    EDIT: And anesthesia takes care of the hurtful/painful part. Although I think it is safe to say that no male who was circumcised as an infant has any recollection of the event anyways.

    -Finrock

    Given my family's medical history, my daughter's breast tissue poses a far greater health risk than do my sons' foreskins. Should I have her breasts removed now, as prevention, before they become risky, or should I let them perform their God-given biological function until such time as a real threat occurs?

  10. We left the decision up to our sons, the owners of the bodies. If they some day want to remove their foreskins, or if a medical reason for removing them comes up, it can be done. Until then, if it ain't broke, why fix it? ;) We also didn't pierce our daughter's ears. We left it up to her to decide when that would be done.

    For me it comes down to bodily integrity. Control over what is done to one's body is a HUGE thing for me. I will not make changes to someone else's body, even my child's body, without their permission, and/or a genuine medical need, and then I make sure they understand exactly what's happening and why. Altering a child's God-given body because *I* think it would "look better" isn't even on the table.

  11. It is frequently easier to have a dress made for you by a local seamstress. That way it can be altered in many ways for modesty, fit and just to reflect your personality. It is not as expensive as you might think. It's usually less expensive than buying a dress from a shop, with the added bonus of having a one-of-kind dress made just for you.

    I would add to this to make sure it's a GOOD seamstress, not just someone who's "good at sewing". Wedding dresses are no easy thing to make, and if you want anything remotely fancy, you will need an excellent seamstress, preferably one who can show you a portfolio of other wedding dresses she's made.

    And be absolutely clear about your modesty standards. My brother's first wife had her wedding dress made by a local seamstress, and when she got the final dress the neckline was *still* too low to cover the top hem of her garments, but she didn't realize it until the night before the wedding when she had finally received her own Endowments and was trying on the dress one more time to make sure it would be modest enough. Thankfully my BIL, who was raised by a steamstress and had been taught a bit by her, was able to sew on a 2" wide ribbon trim to the collar *the night before the wedding*. Thank about pre-wedding jitters! :P

  12. When I was wedding dress shopping with my daughter every one who helped was endowed and understood. The smaller boutiques usually have the best deals. I was not impressed with David's Bridal.

    Many Utah bride's buy a cap or short sleeve wedding dress and then make or buy a bolero or jacket/sweater to wear in the temple. The following pic is similar to what I usually see at LDS weddings. All that is needed is a white sweater or a long sleeve bolero.

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    edit: I've seen some really gorgeous crocheted sweaters/jackets that compliment the dress nicely.

    Some Temples will even provide a t-shirt to wear under your dress. If you know where you'll likely be Sealed you could call ahead to find out. I was Sealed at the Oakland Temple and they had a really pretty, long-sleeved, high-knecked tshirt I could wear under my dress for the Sealing (and it was a really pretty, lacy one that I wish I could have kept! :lol: ), and then take it off before I went outside for pictures. :)

  13. From my chat with the RS president, apparently a lot of them find the mike too inconvenient, or they can't remember to talk into it.

    We had this problem a few years ago, and the sisters who couldn't hear just kept complaining, even if it meant interrupting the lesson by calling out "I can't hear you!" Eventually the teachers started remembering to speak louder.

    Squeaky wheel, and all that. ^_^