mattai

I think from a single guy's POV that some guys are immature. But at the same time, there are a lot of external factors that hinder guys from "moving on with life". For example, in the past 10 years, college tuition and other expenses have skyrocketed above inflation making it more difficult than ever before to complete your undergrad degree in 4 years. Now it's more like 6 or 7 years on average to complete your degree with all the added coursework that some universities require as well guys sometimes going only part time since that's only what they can afford.
So if some RM didn't start school because he had to pay for his own mission by working full time when he was 18 and 19, and didn't start until he was 21, finishing his degree at 28 or 29 is not out of the norm by today's standards.
Meanwhile, a lot of women start school full-time right after high school often with parental support (more so than RMs), so women in the church (who didn't serve their own missions) have at least, on average, a 3 or 4 year head start with schooling and their careers.
That kind of economic imbalance between single guys and women in the church, puts pressure on a lot of guys feeling that they have to finish school before they can seriously begin dating. So some single women feel the guys "are not stepping up " and "honoring their Priesthood", meanwhile some guys lose focus and give up to ease the pressure of inadeqancy they feel, so they go inactive, or don't try much to "move forward", or feel they can never be that perfect provider.
Guys thrive much more on praise, encouragement, and understanding than being brow-beaten by a lot of the single women I see on LDS blogs, in YSA and SA Wards, and also by local church leaders. Just think how many more active LDS guys there would be if such an attitude of praise, encouragement, and understanding in the church actually exists?

Back to the OP, Beef, have you considered it's not about the "lack of guys", but more about where you live? Have you ever considered moving somewhere else where there are "more guys"?
There are active single guys in the church all around. In fact where I live, there's always more single GUYS at activities than single women. Most single women around here don't appreciate the LDS guys at all. And these are good guys with testimonies, "jobs", etc, etc. But the problem around here is that most women will not date a guy useless he makes over 100K, drives a BMW or Mercedes, owns at least a $500K condo or house. Period. So with that, I know so many good LDS guys who would love to get married to LDS women, end up marrying non-members who appreciate them more.