karebeari

I was inactive for several years. I suddenly wanted to return and did. I live in an area with several colleges and most of the membership was students so there was a lot of turnover. I live 45 miles from the church so was not able to attend allot of the community/church functions so I was not easily able to make member friends. I had a hard time going back the first 3 years. I went anyway because I knew I needed to. I felt very alone and sad. I wondered what was wrong, not even the bishop had time for me. Finally, I decided it was my attitude. I pretended to be happy and outgoing and the situation improved greatly just in one week. 3 years later I still find it difficult to make member friends but I do not feel alone. I enjoy going to church now and feel inspired and enlightened. I do not have to have friends, just so long as no one is mean or cruel. I feel the love and friendship of our Saviour. Attitude can make all the difference.

I dated a non-member (no members my age in the area) thinking he would convert. 7.5 years after our marriage he still has not been baptised. He makes it very difficult to attend church or to fulfill my calling. I love him very much but it is difficult. I believe he someday will convert but this time I am being more realistic. If it happens with 20 years I will be happy. My suggestion: make life more simple and do not date non-members.