MrsHart

Rain, I absolutely agree with you. There are ways to help someone, and even be their friend, without having to date them. MAYBE he's trying to change himself. MAYBE he's seeking help. Maybe, maybe, maybe. All speculations. All we know is that this young woman may get hurt if she dates him. Or maybe she won't, but it is totally not worth the risk. Once the damage is done, it's difficult, if not impossible, to undo. It's all about being proactive.

Eeeek! If I were you, I would find a way to tell her, because I would hate to see a poor innocent girl get taken advantage of.

Hi Lexish, I'm sorry that you are going through a hard time. If you don't mind me asking, why do you think you are having a tough time making friends? Also, what makes you think that anorexia would make you happy? If your goal is to lose weight, trust me, a healthy diet and some form physical fitness is way better; not only will you lose weight, but you'll also get in shape at the same time.

Wow. I don't know what to tell ya. I'm stumped and out of suggestions. Good luck.

You should! They are usually held at restaurants. All you need to do is Google for more information. You can also buy your own kit (it's about $20-$25, and comes with everything you'd need, minus the food).

Then she could have gotten an IUC or IUD. They are as safe as sterilization, yet 100% revevrsible. IUC/IUD also do not require any surgery or cutting. In the United States, the FDA has approved two brands: Paragard: The website says that it is effective for 10 years, but my doctor told me that it's actually effective for up to 12 years. It is completely 100% hormone-free. The Paragard is about $600 before insurance, and when you divide that by 144 months, that's $4.16 a month. Mirena: This has a very small dose of hormone (but way less than birth control pills), but it does not get into your bloodstream. The hormone stays only in the area that the Mirena is put in. Mirena is effective for 5 years. Insertion: 10 seconds for the doctor/nurse practitioner to open the package; 5 seconds to insert it. The total time it takes (including small talk and preparation): Under 5 minutes. Note: The old-fashioned IUD of the past (from the 1970s), called the Dalkon Shield, got a bad reputation, but this was when the design was still primitive, large, and was produced by a totally different company altogether. If people are afraid of today's IUDs, then they might as well stop using today's highly advanced condoms just because condoms of the past were primitive and not very effective; and they might as well stop using today's very safe and effective birth control pills just because the pills of the past had several times the hormones and were unsafe.

Do you know WHAT or WHO causes you to cut yourself? Cutters usually have one event/situation/person who would cause them to cut themselves, and they can successfully avoid that act by keeping themselves away from that event/situation/person. EDIT To Add: I've just learned that it's because of your friend and parents. It sounds like stress from conflicts is the cause of you cutting yourself. A : The situation with the friend: She's not a true friend, based on what you told us. There is no point in wanting to be friends with someone who does not want to be your friend. B : The situation with your parents: Family is important, so try to talk to them. Tell them that when they make things difficult for you, it causes you to harm yourself, and that you NEED their help in improving your situation and condition. If they still have no interest in helping you, then just somehow wait until you can get out. Family is very important, but toxic family members are not worth the suffering. I'm sorry if my opinion offends anyone; I'll readily admit that I probably have fewer life experiences than most of you. By the way, Gretchen, if you ever need to have someone to talk to one-on-one, feel free to privately message me any time. I mean it! :)

Hordak, I am very sorry that you are going through this. I did not read all the responses from the other forumers, but I did read your postings in this thread, and here are the impressions that I get of your wife: 1. She's lonely. I know this sounds crazy, considering that she goes clubbing with her friends and such, but I think that she feels lonely within her marriage and family life. Perhaps not physically lonely, but emotionally lonely. You mentioned that you two go out alone only once or twice a year, which doesn't sound enough to me. Can you find someone to watch the kids while you go out on your dates, once a week? I understand that your children are part of the family, but you don't need to take them with you everywhere. 2. She goes out so much because while out, she feels that she is experiencing the fun that she feels no longer exists at home. Also, she could be depressed. 3. Maybe she wasn't ready to handle the responsibility that comes with having a family, and now feels the need to make up for "lost times." 4. She's bored. It's not an excuse, but it could be the reason. Maybe your wife doesn't know how to talk to you about these things, and when she does talk to you, she is not giving you the whole story because she feels held back somehow.

Clue (both the classic and updated versions). I'm not really much for board games, and I prefer murder mystery dinners. :)

How would I react? I would support my child in his or her decision. There is no one-size-fits-all religion, and while I understand that our church welcomes everyone, not everyone will feel that the religion fits them. If, after my child has matured a bit, and realizes that s/he would like to return to Mormonism, that would be great. However, if the religion truly is not for them, then I would not want them to follow the religion and be miserable either. We live in a free country, where the freedom of religion also means that we have the freedom NOT to follow one, or any, for that matter. Love between family members should be unconditional.

How would I react? I would support my child in his or her decision. There is no one-size-fits-all, and while I understand that our church welcomes everyone, not everyone will feel that the religion fits them. If, after my child has matured a bit, and realizes that s/he would like to return to Mormonism, that would be great. However, if the religion truly is not for them, then I would not want them to follow the religion and be miserable either. We live in a free country, where the freedom of religion also means that we have the freedom NOT to follow one, or any, for that matter. Love between family members should be unconditional.

That's how I eat it. Lol. Try the whipped cream cheese; so fluffy and light.

I love pumpkin food! My favorite is pumpkin soup. So creamy an delicious.

Just saying hi. I don't know what else to say here. My name is Shelley and I'm from Las Vegas. I recently got married (no, not at one of those Vegas drive-thru chapels! Lol). I found this website while Googling, and thought that I'd join.