Blessed2bLDS

I had to realize that what happened to me was not my fault or something that I could control. I also had to realize that there was nothing (my uncle was dead, died as a teen two years after molesting me) I could do, legally or personally, so there was no reason to allow it to have control over my life. I asked Heavenly Father to help the images to fade away and to help me to move past it. I have been blessed that I have done just that. I was hard and I was angry (I told) at my father and his side of the family for not believing me, but I had to let that go. I didn't want my anger, hurt and confusion to be reflected in how I was with my children. I also would like to add that I didn't even try to move past this until I became a member of the church. Living the gospel put the desire in my heart to let it go, heal and move on. I don't know if any of what I said helped, but that is what I did.

A prophet is someone to whom the Lord or Jesus Christ, (which ever you call him), speaks too. In Bible times and Book of Mormon times, they could be a messanger who brought the Lords words to the people or they were leaders of the chosen people (Israel). In the LDS (Mormon) church our prophet is the president of our church. He receives revelation from the Lord on how to manage the church and he also receives revelation for the benefit of all in the World today. They are also referred to as seers and that simply means that in addition to hearing the Lord's words they can also have visions revealed to them as well...=0)

I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this...Sadly, my husband cheated on me as well...we were not members of the church and we were not in an eternal marriage, so that part I cannot help with...but I know your pain, anger, hurt, anger, tears, anger...My husband's afair produced a child as well...as a matter of fact his (well, I can't be a good Christian and put what I call her in this so we will call her his...) horse showed up at our daughter's first birthday to let everyone, including me know that she was pregnant to my husband...his daughter's are a year and 6 months apart in age...we were supposed to be working on a reconsiliation and he was still having a relationship with her...I was angry with him for lying and killing our family...I was angry with her because she knew that my husband was married and that did not matter to her...she wanted him and she stopped at nothing to get him...so I feel your pain...I will pray that you get through this and that it will strengthen you and not tear you down more...Just know that you are strong enough to get through this and to come out of it a stronger women, mother, daughter-of-Heavenly Father...also keep in mind that Heavenly Father is not punishing your...we know conscieously that he is not, but when you are in the depths of pain that small part of your will doubt...push it away and don't let the adversary get in and make that seed of doubt grow...I will check with you later to see how you are, until then hang in there...your Sister in Zion, Dianna =0)

I know for myself...I am always the one behind the camera, so I don't have a lot of photos of me...don't know about others, but that's why I don't!! :)

Thanks everyone for all the information. I didn't think there would be a list for the civil wedding put out by the church because after all the goal is temple marriage. I have shed a million tears over him dating (she was the first) a non-member, because of all that can bring. I also get that you all don't know the whole story, so your comments do not hurt my feelings, just know that they are everything I have already said and thought and cried over. But in the end, he is my son and I love him. In the end she is the most special girl in the world and he is a different man when he is with her. She honors his priesthood and has been attending church every Sunday for three months. I will sit down and tell you all the whole story tonight. Then I think you will all see it from my perspective. I know this will end up in a temple sealing. =0)

Thank you so much for the information...I don't think we will have a problem with our Bishop marrying them in the chapel...He has known our family for 17-years and has seen my son grow up...he knows his character...I am assuming then that the Bishop will be able to tell us what we can and cannot do in the chapel for the wedding.

So I have NEVER done anything like this before in my life, but I need HELP!! My son just announced his engagement over the weekend to the most wonderful girl in the world. So what do I need help with? Besides myself, my sister and my three children no one else in my family and no one at all, including the bride are members of the church. My son insists that he want to be married by our Bishop in our ward building (not a problem) and have the reception in the cultural hall. Problem is that in the 17-years that i have been a member I have never seen or attended a non-temple wedding. I don't know what we can and cannot do. I have been told we can have it in the chapel, then told we cannot. Been told we cannot do certain things in the chapel (yet no one seems to know what we can and cannot do) or be to "normal" non-lds-weddish (completely not a work, but...you get what I mean). Does anyone know of a site where I can get help, ideas, do's-and-don'ts of a LDS chapel wedding?