Noche,
I am dying to know how things are going. I KNOW how you feel and can completely understand your dilemma in not being sure in fighting for the marriage or ending it. I am currently going through the same thing. Except I have 2 kids, which complicates things. I think if we had no kids I'd be gone, but it's difficult to even say that. Once you're in the situation everything changes, your thoughts, views, everything. I would say be patient, be patient, be patient. What does it matter if you wait several months or a year to get divorced? I would take some time, things are still raw. My stk pres, father, and the counselor I am seeing have all counseled my to be patient. I found out about my H's lies about 3 weeks ago, right after he left for 2 months of training for work. So I am on my own dealing with this for now, but it's been a blessing to be honest. I would say that your husband is a sex addict, if he views porn and has had sexual encounters it's SERIOUS business. I would recommend seeing a counselor who specializes in sex addiciton. I just started seeing one and it's been great to know what I am up against and to feel a little more understood. I started reading a book as well entitled confronting pornography. you can get it from DB, it's been very enlightening thus far. Highly recommend it. Best wishes to you and prayers as well.
