B0rnAgainLDS

Born 54 days sober

Thank you Aussie. Sorry I just kind of blurt things out without references or a bibliography. Some of the statements I have made are an extremely short summary of the in-depth reading I have done. I will agree to disagree with you what is an addiction and what is not. If you read more on it, you will realize what my point of view is. My pattern matches this brother who started the thread. He hasn't progressed as far as I did. I don't wish that on anyone. It is just so unfortunate how many subtle lies Satan tells us that have 50, 70, even 90% truth in them, but they are still lies. I believe porn use requires confession to priesthood authority. I think any bishop or stake president would agree. Every time there is a general conference talk on it, they always encourage us to "go to your bishop." It was asked why the bretheren didn't add a question to the temple recommend interview that specifically addresses porn. The answer was that there are at least FIVE questions, that if answered truthfully, would prompt a confession of even the casual use of pornography (a ficticious thing, IMO). Here is a good article on "is it really an addiction?"

I am a man, and I have been sober 53 days today from pornography addiction. I am going to recovery meetings with my wife now (started on my own), we are counselling with the bishop and a professional therapist. I have never felt better in my life, I feel the savior with His arms around me. I was near suicide. One of my best friends decided suddenly to quit and has never gone back to it in over 2 and a half years. We knew each other, but didn't know about each other's addiction until we ran into each other at the addiction recovery meeting. I read your posts, truetothefaith and I have a great deal of respect for your willingness to forgive. I hurt my wife so much breaking the news to her, and later doing a full disclosure confession of everything I've ever been involved in. But I have hope for our relationship. I love her with all my heart and will never go back to that smut! Men have slips. They have relapses. It is common, but they must always tell their bishop and wife immediately. Accountability is essential. I have been journaling my progress here. Be patient with him and love him. To answer your 2nd question, Gerald Curtis was excommunicated and his wife stayed with him. They both write about it in their book, The Worth of Every Soul

I was doing it at work, but was never caught (yet).

well if you have the addiction, no wait, problem...take care of it first. dont get married with it. open up to her and tell her

That's fine. There is plenty of research on the subject in the medical journals. Obviously you aren't in that field. God be with you, brother.

porn use shrinks critical areas of the limbic system in the brain, damages areas of inhibition and prevents frontal cortex and memory areas of the brain from functioning properly, and all of this shows on MRI. There is a book written by an LDS neurosurgen on the subject. There are dozens of physical repercussions, some obvious, some not. DeseretBook.com - He Restoreth My Soul: Understanding and Breaking the Chemical and Spiritual Chains of Pornography through the Atonement of Jesus Christ

I had your same frame of mind. My case only got worse and worse and worse until I was ready for suicide. Don't let it go that far. You are addicted. You are in denial. Your bishop/wife may no nothing about addiction. You must come to 12 step meetings. It saved my life. It is saving my marriage and my job. This is a crucial decision. I honestly didn't believe I was addicted. I didn't even know how much I was lying. I am also in professional counselling. I hope you get the help you need. I love you brother. take care. L

Hi. I'm new. I have been married 22 years, have 4 beautiful kids, always been active. Just started the church's 12 addiction recovery program and am working on my sobriety. 50 days clean today! I started hanging in the chat room yesterday. see if I'm there!