Two more questions. First of all--thank you for all the support over my husbands online relationship. I'm hoping that it is over, but who really knows. He still wants his ipad to be 'private' and has a passcode lock on it. He says he's not contacting her anymore, but then told me several lies that I know for a fact aren't true. Plus we've already established that he's a liar, so who can really believe anything he says these days? Ok, enough of that and on to the two questions.
1. Should I contact his online girlfriend and expose him? I have a way to contact her. I believe I can do it pretty anonymously using a different phone. The reasoning behind doing this would be two part. Part one--revenge. LOL. I'd like to sugarcoat it, but really that's what it is. It might help speed up the separation part of this whole mess. Part two--she's a victim too. He has lied to her about his age, marital status, child status, job, well--pretty much everything. So my heart kinda goes out to her for falling for someone she thinks is such a great guy but is really just a liar cheating on his wife.
2. For anyone else who's gone through this--how do you keep the kids as uninvolved as possible?? Of course, they know something is wrong. I'm crying all the time, my eyes are bloodshot, I'm irritable, I'm staring, I'm not sleeping. Dad, btw, is just dandy though. He's all smiles and Mr. Fun to the kids these days. Of course, I'm not going to tell them about his girlfriend, but if we do separate or even as we work it out--how much do I tell the kids? I'm finding it pretty much impossible to be the mom I normally am. I'm totally shutting down. My kids are 15, 13, 11, 8, and 6.