NadiaStar

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  1. I've often wondered if we as humans have more or less the same amount of hardships, but they appear so differently. People may have been hardier back then, but it was part of their lives. If we had been raised in the same conditions, we would be about the same. Did they think of themselves as particularly hardy?

    Its the emotional turmoil that makes things harder for many ofus. But that's why we have that atonement. it's not just for our own sins, but anything that does cause us pain.

  2. I "got around" as a kid and had my first daughter out-of-wedlock at 17, so I don't know if I have the same perspective as you, but I can understand the nervous thing.

    I don't want to tell you to assume it will all go swimmingly or that it will be horrible, because I don't know what it will be for you.

    Read the mentioned books, ask questions, let your man know you're nervous, and just take it one step at a time.

  3. Do you at all feel you've been "superior" in any way since you became more active? Not meanign to point fingers, but even a little thing might make him feel bad about this.

    Sit down, affirm to him your love for him, and maybe even be willing to compromise on a few faith issues. My sister-in-law is married to my a Methodist man--she goes to his church half the Sundays in the month. He doesn't attend hers, but isn't super-active in his church but appreciates that church time together. They've been able to work everything out.

    I don't mean sell out on your testimony. Keep up your LDS faith, I just used that as an example.

    I agree that he definitly isn't used to his "new wife" and will probably need a lot of extra love and assurance.

  4. We did something last night. I'm not sure what's going to happen, but I feel jubilant about it.

    We kicked one daughter's boyfriend out last night.

    He broke our rules for drugs plus hit one of the other kids (not his). My husband ordered him out of the house, threw all of his clothes in a bag, and threw it out on the lawn. Our daughter's boyfriend isn't ordinarly violent (the hitting has never happened before) and was even apologetic about it, so we're not worried that way (though locks were changed today and we're looking into laws.)

    My daughter said he's bunking with a friend and says she understands, but she's in tears over it.

    I feel quite empowered, but I hope I didn't break up a family.

  5. I guess I agree with dash a little bit on this. Just because the kid is legally adult does not mean he acts or thinks like an adult. Is it fair someone loses out in the workforce because he was expected to be more than he could do? I agree someone should not attempt to do a job they can't do, but if a parent could give a little boost... I guess I'm not sure where the line would be drawn. With my adult kids, I kind of wish I could attend them on a job interview in order to help them to know to say (assuming I trusted they could do the job), though I do see the point of view of employers.

  6. Jayanna, I appreciate your post, but Mormons are not the only religion that have committed massacres on that scale. The point made still remains.

    While I do feel we should admit what people did, how do we? Are we supposed to beat ourselves up about it? Vort is right: we didn't do it. Where's the happy medium?

  7. As someone who did this some decades ago, I advise you to seek help, both spiritually and with a qualified doctor. It's not good and any feel-good benefits you might get are merely temporal. No, it's not your fault for mental health issues (woefully misunderstood among culture) but there's still no excuse not to seek help. This is covered by the Atonement!

  8. I'm having a moral dilemma. I have a girlfriend who is going to be investigating the church. We want to marry one day and she is willing to join the church then after the one year waiting period is up, lie about actively supporting homosexuality yet getting a temple recommend one of the questions that is asked is "Do you actively support anything contrary to the Church?" and her answer is that "God will forgive her" if she lies to get a temple recomend using James 1:9: "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us of our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

    Anyways, I live in Canada where the homosexuality thing is moot anyways 'cause it's legal. I have bipolar and am depressed and confused about all this and the feeling are AMPLIFIED because of my bipolar. I love her dearly but she said don't try and stop her. I want to marry her and it to be honest. I support homosexuality (but that's a whole other matter.) I know I won't get into the temple because of this but I don't care. I don't want to and will not lie. Anyways could someone help me please?? What do I do??

    Unless you guys are throwing rotten fruit at General Authorities over homosexual rights that probably isn't an issue. I support gay rights to a certain extent and at my last temple interview it wasn't a problem.

    The big question here is if you and her are legitimately interested in the temple for the temple's sake.